Post # 1
My SO’s younger sister has been “seeing” a guy since last October. She’s had some icky relationships in the past, mostly due to her insecurity and lack of trust. Plus, she’s a single mother to a 2 year old boy and in her early 20s. Now that I do the math she’s had 3 “boyfriends” in less than 2 years!
They’ve never refered to each other as girlfriend/boyfriend. Heck, she even admitted they were “friends with benefits” over Thanksgiving.
Lol let me get back to the issue. Well, this guy completely ditched her on Valentine’s day, and the next day she posts that they’re in a relationship on Facebook… He’s also a single parent, but early 30s and technically still married to his son’s mother. His child is barely older than 1 year. He completely ignored her relationship update that he’s tagged in and refuses to change his status from single!
Now Bees, I try not to pry too much, but I feel bad for her and it makes her look really desperate.
Does this come off as too eager to anyone else?
Post # 3
He’s single. Your sister admitted to that much over Thanksgiving. That’s the reason.
Post # 4
Oh for God’s sake, he’s married with a child. I would think changing his FB status is the last thing on his mind.
Post # 5
@Nika2013: About 5 years ago my long-time boyfriend broke up with me for another girl (it was later rumored that he got her pregnant). I cut all contact with him for a few months, even though he would still attempt to contact me. Eventually we did start speaking again and he convinced me that he was sorry. It seemed as if we were getting back together, but when I went to update my facebook, he never accepted it. He was actually just stringing me along for the sex. A few weeks later I saw that he was in a relationship with someone else. I think this guy probably is trying to keep his options open and so he doesn’t want to acknowledge his relationship with your SO’s sister in a public way.
Post # 6
I get on facebook about once every three months. So maybe he just hasn’t seen it. Or doesn’t want to publish his relationship status on facebook. I wouldn’t worry about it. But I’m, obviously, not a big facebook person!
Post # 7
@Nika2013: I’d say there’s probably a reason, but I’d also give him the benefit of the doubt (until he proved otherwise). He’s technically still married, and there’s a child, so I’m assuming he’s in the middle of a divorce? Custody battles are terrible things, if he shows the world he’s with another woman before the divorce is over it could mean bad things for him as far as the divorce paperwork goes, people can get really nasty and that might all his future ex-wife needs to completely drain him financially and take the child forever.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Me personally, I’d tell my sister she looks really ridiculous posting that on Facebook. But we have the dynamic that would allow us to have that conversation… Don’t know how your sister would take it.
Post # 9
@Nika2013: Sounds like they have different opinions on their relationship status, and she’s being hopeful it is something more than it is.
Post # 10
She’s my SO’s sister, sorry if that wasn’t too clear. I totally agree.
I can definitely understand that part, I just don’t see how she made such a huge assumption!
My gut is telling me that’s what might be going on… It’s just sad. Her previous bf broke up with her because he felt like these 2 were TOO friendly.
He’s updated his page at least 10 times after her relationship post. It’s like he kinda just ignored her or it didn’t really happen.
I feel like he might be trying to leave his options open, especially with his wife.
I’m not “close” with her, she’s my SO’s sister. She mentioned her new guy this past thanksgiving, and I was kinda hoping this 1 would be good for her. Especially, with them both having young children.
Exactly. He’s a personal trainer, loves to work on cars, and all about his bros. I just don’t picture him taking their relationship to seriously. I don’t know how she expects him to take on her and her son when he has his own family situation…
Post # 11
If he’s on facebook all the time, and won’t change it, then he’s definitely avoiding it.
Post # 12
Apparently he was able to chat up his other lady friends on Valentine’s day, but was too busy for her… She’s in some serious denial