(Closed) “The Fantasy of Being Thin”

posted 8 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve read that article before (I think I was actually reading Kate Harding’s blog daily when she first published it) and I LOVE it.  It’s really pointed out to me how much we bundle up with being thin.  I’m not full figured so hopefully I am not being out of line, but I am really horrified with the way we look at thinness and health in our culture and the effect it has of causing people to put their own lives on hold as if dieting down to a certain size is a prerequisite to leading a fulfilling life when so often it’s really detrimental to that.

Also – her Eat the World post always sticks with me.  It helped me make some realizations that bordered on life-changing.

ETA: Holy runon sentence batman.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Kate Harding is fabulous. Great article!

Post # 6
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kitchenkoala: LOL, thanks.  🙂  I figure I might as well be amusing about my inability to end sentences. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think this article is really interesting… but I don’t know that I 100% agree with everything she says. 

I do believe in trying to be at peace with one’s body. Also, I agree with her points that a person shouldn’t think “When I’m thin….” because that’s unrealistic and puts a lot of pressure on a person. The only thing that will change when you’re thin is your clothing size! 

However, I don’t like her comments that “diets don’t work”… The thing is, fad diets and crash diets and weight loss pills DON’T work. Even programs like WW don’t work if you don’t stay dedicated and make healthy life changes. 

But to say that it’s impossible to loose weight- that just isn’t true. Healthy life changes can work, and you can loose weight if you eat well and exercise, but you have to keep doing it. And you might never be teeny tiny size, but you CAN loose weight if you want to. 

I am all for her message of accepting one’s self, but I think that if a person wants to lose weight, and wants it for them self and not because they’re thinking “When I’m thin” then she’s really promoting a defeatist message towards those people…

If someone had told me 30 lbs ago that “Diets don’t work” and that I should just “Be happy with who I am” and I had listened to them, then I would still be 30 lbs heavier and very unhappy (I was very depressed about how I looked).

No, not much has changed for me since I lost that 30 lbs, but I AM a happier, healthier person and I feel more comfortable about myself and how I look now than I did before.  

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I liked it. I liked that fact that she said be happy with who you are, because for some reason ppl think if a plus size woman is happy with herself, she is delusional or avaoiding losing weight or both.

I’m hapy with myself, but I am changing eating habits to get into a 16, I wear an 18 now, so yeah, Just a tab bit smaller is my ideal.LMAO

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Thank you for posting this!
EXACTLY what I needed!

Made me tear up a little bit…but probably cuz I was in the same stinkin’ thinkin’

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