The First Look "Look" Advice?

posted 1 year ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would say don’t worry about it – the walking down the aisle moment is huge regardless!! I did not do a first look and honestly it didn’t even feel like a big “reveal” because there were so many emotions going through my/my husband’s minds. It was kind of a blur.

That said, there’s no “rule” about when you should/shouldn’t wear your veil, it’s up to you. I chose to wear mine in all of the portraits because I loved it. Keep in mind that depending on your veil/hairstyle, the veil can be really difficult to put on securely. I would say put it on at the beginning and then once you take it off, it’s off for the night.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2020 - Round Rock, TX

I think that’s a great idea! I love the idea of making the “first” look and the look on the aisle slightly different. I think brides typically do wear their veils in family pictures, but it’s your wedding! do what you want! plus it will probably be easier, since you won’t have to worry about everyone stepping on your veil 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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absinthevintage :  We did a first look, my hubby cried, and I wore my veil. Walking down the asile 2 hours later, he cried again. It didnt take away any magic. first look 1first look 2

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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absinthevintage :  We did 90% of pics before the ceremony! No magic lost! I actually felt so much better after seeing him, so much less nervous. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2020

I know this is unusual, but I’m considering having wedding portraits done in our outfits the day I do the makeup and hair trial.  That way I don’t have to pay up the wazoo for a photographer at the wedding and I think would like the photos better if they were in a controlled environment with good lighting.  I really like the idea of  old fashioned wedding portraits back when people didn’t take 500 wedding pictures. I would still have my sister take some with a nice camera at the actual wedding to remember it by.  I’ve considered it could ruin the “surprise” of the first look, but I do my hair and makeup all the time so I doubt I’ll look much different than I do every day, anyway. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

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absinthevintage :  I didn’t wear a veil, but I did the first look with the bouquet and then we did family photos right after. Nothing really changed for walking down the aisle and I don’t think it mattered. Not sure if my now husband would have even noticed lol. It was all special and magical and happy!

Oh, and after the first look and family photos, he came back to my dressing room with me to hang out before the ceremony. I don’t feel like we saw each other too much at all. It was really comforting to have him there and helped me be less nervous. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I think you are over thinking this.  You’re essentially asking if seeing the person you love on the day you marry them will ruin the very special thing that actually makes you married.  Really?  The veil is going to be the tipping point that all hinges on?  How is that possible?  Being legally wed isn’t special enough as is?  It’ll all be fine.  Really.  Wear whatever you want when you want.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I didn’t have a veil, but our first look was with my bouquet. Now I kind of regret it, as in all of these pictures you can’t really see my dress. haha

We took the family pictures after the ceremony and with the bouquet.

But I agree with the other Bees, do whatever is the most comfortable for you. I wouldn’t think about it too much.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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absinthevintage :  depending on your hairstyle/veil it will probably be easier to have it on for the first look photos (unless your hairdresser will be available after those photos to add it in). I loved our first look, it got all the jitters out and I then I was just excited for the actual ceremony. My aisle photos are seriously me just with this huge goofy shit-eating grin – zero nervousness at all. I look a little nervous in the first look shots though hahaha. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I don’t think the veil and bouquet is going to make a huge difference to the ‘look’ in your FH’s eyes, but I don’t think that matters. I absolutely loved having that time before the wedding with my husband and wedding party before all the chaos of the actual wedding hit. It almost made us feel more connected for the day. 

I guarantee that the ceremony will be just as magical. Remember that the moment is emotional because you’re getting married not because the groom is surprised by your outfit. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Do what feels comfortable for you! My husband and I got ready mostly together because…….I like having the people I love around to chat with when doing boring tasks like hair. (Also, I was going down the aisle first, so he was definitley going to see me beforehand!) But do what you are comfortable with! 

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