(Closed) The first moment of disappointment.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lol, I’ve just started Wedding Planning, and we’ve had several disappointments…

1- Couldn’t find the style of ring that I saw in the USA up here in Canada… took me 6 Weeks to find a ring I truly LOVED.  And then we paid a lot more for it.

Thankfully though that one all worked out great, because in the end I really believe this ring is much much better than my initial choice, not only in quality, but also in the fact that it just suits me (and Mr TTR) better.  For one thing, the setting for the feature stone isn’t as high, so less chance of looking down one day and finding “my rock” gone !!

2- Still working thru the issue of finding an Officiant for the city we are getting married in (Elopement to a Destination Wedding).  The one we really had our heart on will be on vacation… it is Christmastime afterall.

BUT the good news is there are lots of others on a long list to call up / email and see who can work with our schedule.

3- Have begun researching possible dress options.  Initially thought I didn’t want a gown that said “Wedding Dress” so much in that I am an Encore Bride, and did the pouffy white dress the first time round.  That was until I discovered that there is a HUGE trend underway towards more colourful frocks… Off-White – Ivory – Champagne – Gold.  Now I am leaning in that direction.  Found one on-line I absolutely loved, only now to discover it is a “Designer Gown” and so the pricing is waaaay out of my league (lol by about 20x my original budget)

GOOD NEWS is I am a creative gal… so although I cannot sew very well… I can certainly visualize things and MORE IMPORTANTLY “make them happen” (an Arts Major back in College… and a good deal of time in my Gov’t Job doing Event Planning / Trade Shows etc).  So now thinking of ways to get the Designer Look by perhaps buying a dress, and then having a lace or organza overlay in the contrasting colour made by a seamstress (be it Ivory over Champagne or vice versa)

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Lol, as I said we’ve just begun planning out stuff.  And already 3 things and 3 MINOR SET-BACKS… beginning to think I may see a trend here, the Wedding Planning isn’t going to be as easy as I had hoped.  Consequently, figure I need to build in more time to get each task done.


Post # 4
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hate that feeling! I found that it came most often with the venue selection. Every time  we found a place we liked, it was either crazy expensive or too small. I do feel like once we found our venue, it was perfect and I couldn’t imagine having the reception anywhere else. Everything works out for a reason. 🙂


Post # 5
731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Fortunately, we’ve been really blessed to book a great venue and find a photographer we both love (two of the top 3 most important things to us!)

The third MOST important thing is that our college pastor officiate. He moved from a 1.2-hour plane flight away to VANCOUVER. Now this adds only a small amount of plane time, but flying internationally is about 200 bucks more expensive, and we only have budget to pay for his plane ticket, and not his wonderful wife and baby. We’re hoping with all our hearts that all of them are able to come, but will be SO happy if even only he is able to attend. I would just be heartbroken if he wasn’t, though… Still waiting on his reply!

Outside the top 3 is our food. I would love to do a sit-down dinner, but we may have to only do appetizers. 🙁

Minor things:

– We might not be able to take our Epics where we want, and we might end up taking photos in the city where we live (totally not our style, sick of the cliche backdrops, says nothing about our relationship like the city we lived in a year ago does).

– Dresses are expensiiiiive! And even the pricey ones don’t impress me! I looked pretty extensively for a few months years ago, and now for two months since we were engaged. Nothing seems “wow” to me except for a 14,000 dollar Oscar de la Renta gown. I’m cracking up at myself right now, because I am SUCH the girl with champagne taste and a beer budget!

I’m sure there will be many more disappointments along the way. I’ve already resigned myself to DIYing really cheap flowers and iPod music. Not essential things to us, so no biggie anyway.

Post # 6
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My dress was white and the amazing shoes I found didn’t match b/c they were off-white.  🙁

Post # 8
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissHornet:  My first moment of disappointment was with the venue, too.  I had fallen in love with my first choice online but tried not to get my hopes up since pictures can be deceiving.  Well, we went for a site visit and I was so let down.  The whole process was anticlimactic.  After visiting 2 other venues, we decided on a cruise wedding.

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