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Helper bee
lol so yesterday was Fiance and I’s third thanksgiving together (did it a day late with his family bc of his step dad’s work schedule) and my parents came and we had a fantastic time! And as we were leaving his mom says “love you!” to me and I got all flustered and weirded out even though we’ve gotten pretty close and she’s amazing and just like mumbled “love you…” and it was suuuuuper awkward and she just shouted “I LOVE YOU!!!!!” Back at me and step dad was all “aww you’re great sweetie come back soon” and it was just this great hilarious moment.
anyone else getting cozy with the future in laws this holiday season??
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Honey bee
Never. My Mother-In-Law has been out of my life for over 8 years. Father-In-Law passed before we married.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
My in laws have never said that to me, in 23 years and we’re close!!
Post # 4
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Newbee
The exact same thing happened to me too! I felt so awkward. I do love them and we are close. it was just so wierd. I kinda froze and mumbled it back! It was more awkward than when my fiance told me he loved me after not even being on a first date!
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
It will be a cold day in hell before I say “I love you” to my Future Mother-In-Law.. I’ll write it in a card or sign an email with love but I will never say those words to her..
Post # 6
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Helper bee
younglove9293: hahaha yeah this is exactly how I felt! Like yep I do love them but saying it for the first time was just a total shock. I froze!
beetruz13: Oh wow! Guess sometimes you don’t have to say it to know its a mutual feeling
bnvw882: 2XMOB: that’s sad 🙁 I know there are some crazy MILs out there though!
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Buzzing bee
I never said i! Closest thing was, “I love this cake!”
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I still get totally flustered when my Future Mother-In-Law says it directly to me, instead of to both Fiance and I. I’ve managed to say it back a couple times but mostly I’m so surprised that I just mumble “you, too” or some other nonsense.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
Um…never. It’s just too awkward. His mom occasionally signs off on emails with something like, “love to you both,” which is totally fine since it’s a mom-like thing to say and it’s directed at us both, but I could never see myself saying it back. This doesn’t mean I don’t like them, because I do (at least I like Future Mother-In-Law…Future Father-In-Law, I could take or leave). I tell my parents I love them all the time, but it’s the type of thing I just couldn’t see myself saying to my in-laws. I would also never expect my Fiance to tell my parents he loves them, so I think it’s fine that I don’t want to.
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Busy bee
Never! I would be weirded out. Ha
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
I’m fine with writing “love, CarolinaBelle” in a card or something and she might say “love you both!” if she was on speaker phone, but I can not imagine a time when I would say “I love you” to my in laws – super weird. And I don’t find it sad at all, my in laws are great, but that just seems strange.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
themoonofhislife: Ha ha! That sounds like me! I’ve never said it in person. The occasional return of ‘love you too’ in tandem with Darling Husband over the phone but I never initiate. I’ll return ‘lots of love, or love how do you do’ in a text, but again I don’t initiate.
I don’t think I actually love them TBH. They’re nice enough but not embedded in my heart.
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Bee Keeper
My Mother-In-Law and his aunt both say it to me! I act super awkwardly every time too, lol.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
Yeah we say it to each other all the time. I’m not sure why but it seems super easy and casual to say “Love you” to someone but adding the “I” makes it feel very serious to me. I only say “I love you” to my husband and on certain occasions to other people. But I say “love you” all the time. It’s funny because I’m sure no one would ever realize the significance of the “I”! I don’t think I’ve every said “I love you” to my in-laws.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
My Future Mother-In-Law says it to me now, if I’m leaving or we’re getting off the phone. I don’t remember when she said it first, my Fiance and I have been together 5 years now, but I was definitely taken aback at first. I don’t even say I love you to my mom haha. I’m not a super affectionate person, so its still a little weird. I just go with it now though!
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