(Closed) The flattering one or the one with the style I like? (long)

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Personally as a heavier bride myself, I love the Alexis! Very flattering with the pull across to the side! My dress has the same type of pull, and then hand draping along the skirt which is even more slimming.

But at the end of the day, it’s YOUR wedding day! The Serena is the dress that you’ve loved all along and obviously worked hard for! If that’s “the one” you are in love with, make that one work! Get the dress that makes YOU happy, but I would definitely consider the Alexis as well because I’m sure it would look just gorgeous!

Hope that helps 🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I love the Alexis.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Could you post pictures of you in the dresses?  Perhaps the bees will perceive fit differently than you do.

Honestly, I really love the alexis.  It has nice structure and clean lines. One thing to think about: it could be just the Serena that doesn’t fit you well, if in fact it really doesn’t. Perhaps other dresses in this style would look great! I’ve seen similar silhouettes by different designers. You could try different dresses in Serena’s silhouette.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’ve never seen the Alexis before, but when I saw it today it took my breath away.  It’s so gorgeous and sophisticated, it’s a clear winner.  The fact that it’s much more flattering is even more reason.  

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think both gowns are gorgeous, but to be perfectly honest – I adore the Alexis!  It is sophisticated and regal without the frills and fashion faux pas!  I am also a curvy girl and tried on many dresses I loved, but just didn’t work for my body type and ultimately did not make me feel comfortable.  In the end I picked a dress that made me feel beautiful even though I never imagined myself in that “type” of gown.  On my wedding day I felt lovely in my own skin and in my “perfect” gown.  In my humble opinion, pick the gown you FEEL best in and try not to sweat the rest.  Good luck Cicilau! 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Reading between the lines of your post, it sounds like the Alexis is the clear winner.  You look gorgeous in it, your family thinks it fits you best, and it helps to accentuate all the work you’ve done losing weight.  The Serena might have been the dress that motivated you all along, but after trying it on, it might be best to keep it as only that.  It seems like the hard and fast rule of wedding dress buying is you never know until you try it on, and this is a case of that.  I can certainly understand that this dress might be harder to get over because it was ‘the one’ for so long, but in the end, you have to go with what looks good on YOU, not on the models.  Best of luck deciding!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

hello, dear!  this post sounds so much like what happened to me that i couldn’t help but chime in!

i’m also a street size 12 gal.  occasionally i can get into a 10, but not often.

i tried on a dress with side ruching that made me look TINY in the waist – well, tiny for me, anyway!  the bridal consultant said “this dress just does amazing things for your body!”

but then i tried on another dress and though it didn’t do quite the same thing for my figure, it was just SOOOOO much more “me”.  it made me feel happy and excited.  i was jumping up and down and my Mom was crying.  i knew it was for me and i bought it on the spot.  even the consultant said “this one doesn’t make your waist look quite as small, but it makes you absolutely shine”.

i decided that, in the end, having the tiniest waist around isn’t of utmost importance.  (who am i trying to fool, anyway?  i’ve never had a “tiny” waist!)  but what IS important is how i feel.  the confidence will shine through if you feel great about what you’re wearing. and in the end, nothing is prettier than confidence.

i haven’t seen you in either dress so it’s hard to vote in that regard, but what i can tell you, from one size 12 gal to another, is to make sure you feel AMAZING in whatever you choose, because your confidence will give you a boost that nothing else can!

good luck!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I always pick the more flattering dress. That first dress is a look I couldn’t pull off! It would make me look heavier, and I don’t know any bride that is okay with looking like they weigh more than they do on their wedding day!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would personaly pick the dress that flatters me the most.  Being a bigger girl my whole life i’ve come to the conclusion that not everything i think is cute will look cute on me.  And some of the things that i thought nah no way i’ve put on and i’ve looked fab. in. 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I can tell you from experience, you should get the dress that makes you feel beautiful!

I bought a dress that was everything I’d been looking for in a dress-lots of poof in the skirt, assymetrical, very princessy-and didn’t pay attention to the fact that I wasn’t in love.

Now, I’ve found the dress that I DO love… and it’s nothing like the first. But I put it on and almost cried. (I’m not a crier)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Go with the flattering dress. They are both beautiful. But you stll have a couple of months – perhaps you can find a flattering dress that you love.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I love the Alexis.   I would probably go with whatever one makesme look better.  Sometimes dresses look great on the hanger but not on my body.  Same thing with shirts, pants, shoes, skirts in regular life.  I lost a lot of weight in the past too, so I’m self consious about what i put on and what I actually look like in it.  Looking back 20 years from now, I think I’d rather have a dress that makes me look like a knockout, rather than a trendy style that I “just had to have”.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

As someone with a heavier figure, I think the Serena is beautiful – but I love the Alexis. I actually see a lot of similarities (you can tell they are by the same designer!) and if you have worked so hard to show off your figure, look for a dress that emphasizes your hard work!

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