- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Just some background — I’ve always been overweight in my life, and I recently lost 30 pounds and finally got down to a size 12/14. I’m 5’11” and heavyset, so even though I’ve lost quite a lot of weight I’m not stick thin (and never will be). I have a pear shaped body and my waist line has always been “problematic” no matter how hard I try — I have a short waist and my waist has never been a well-defined one. I’ve always been quite self-conscious about my body (being constantly teased about my weight and figure throughout my life does NOT help), and the thought of wearing a wedding dress really scares me…..
I have narrowed down my search for wedding gowns to 2 dresses:
1. Amsale Serena: http://www.amsale.com/bridal/amsalecollection/081226/serena.shtml
2. Amsale Alexis: http://www.amsale.com/bridal/amsalecollection/091231/alexis.shtml
I have fallen in love with the Amsale Serena long before I’ve tried it on. I really like the style and silhouette of this dress. It’s fun, it’s relaxed, it has pockets, it has a full skirt……it has been a great source of motivation for my weight loss since I just love it so much.
I went to try on these dresses today (the salon does not allow pictures to be taken), and here’s my dilemma: The Amsale Alexis is SUPER flattering on me. It gives me this elongated look. I actually look THIN in this dress, with a very nice waistline. There’s a quiet elegance and sophistication about this dress. My mom loves it, and so do my friends. However, for some reason I just don’t feel that it’s THE ONE……I don’t know if it has something to do with how I was soooo SET to get the Serena, and it’s not a style that I like (even though it’s a style that works well for me)……it’s just hard to get the Serena out of my mind when I have been visualizing how great I will look in it when exercising and sweating for the past year.
The Amsale Serena, on the other hand, has this style and silhouette that I really really like — but it unfortunately doesn’t work as well as the Alexis on me. The waistline of the Serena actually makes me look bigger, I think. While I really really like the style, I find myself keep thinking about how my waistline looks in the dress. Also, since I’m taller and heavyset, if I order the Serena I have to raise the necklace for another 2 inches in order to make the dress work on me (the neckline is too low in the original design, which gives me an even shorter torso). I also will need to push myself to lose even more weight before the wedding.
What will you do ladies? Which one will you choose, the one that looks SUPER flattering on you even though you may not feel that it’s THE ONE or jump up and down and say “I LOVE IT”? Or go with a style that you really like (even though it may not work as well for your body type) but just vow to work harder on your body to make the dress work on you?