Post # 1
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Worker bee
Hey bees,
I am in love with wedding planning, and find every excuse to pin wedding things, I’m crafty and have DIY’d my way to a perfect wedding that I’m incredibly excited for… except the dress.
I’ve changed my mind so many times and can’t settle on what I want. I have no idea what I picture myself wearing, and am struggling to match my own bohemian, vintage aesthetic with my Polish FH’s traditional Catholic family’s idea of wedding dress. I don’t have much money (hence the DIY) but I really hope to feel like myself on my big day.
I am struggling to find what feeling like myself looks like. I have two dresses that could be my dress: one is a v-neck, spaghetti strap, low back with criss cross spaghetti straps in the back. I has a full skirt but no chrinoline, and is a pale blush colour.
The second dress is strapless, ivory, ruched sweetheart bodice and a full tulle skirt.
Bees, which dress would you say is the most flattering? I like both dresses but I want to look my best, I want to look bridal, and I want to feel confidant. Both dresses appeal to me for different reasons.
Did I mention my wedding is in 5 weeks? Help!
Post # 3
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Honey bee
I love the one with the straps! However, if you are concerned about not looking “bridal” enough for FI’s family then why not wear the tulle one with a belt (maybe blingy?) for the ceremony and switch to the one with straps for the reception? I would do this so I could wear both ;). If you are set on only one then I think the strap one is the way to go!
Post # 4
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Helper bee
If looking “bridal” is important go with #2 – white with the full skirt. The other, while pretty, doesn’t exactly seem bridal, due to speghetti straps, color, cut – it looks more like a nice evening gown.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
The first one compliments your body the best. Neither wow me though :/
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
@Obow: I’m nt in love with either but #2 suits u best
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
The first looks soo much nicer! I think if you pair it with a flower crown and mantilla veil it will have a beautiful bohemian but still bridal feel 🙂
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
I love the first one. What about adding some fancy accessories to dress it up?
Post # 9
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Worker bee
Thanks bees,
I definitely plan to add accessories. I have a really plain aesthetic though, I don’t like beading or appliques, though lace is nice. I was considering a belt with the blush one, perhaps a lace belt?
Post # 10
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Helper bee
to be honest, im not sure if im sold on either. maybe the first one with alterations… take up and do something with the waistline (bit of lace detail perhaps), get rid of a bit of the bulkiness in that joining seam and possibly some thicker straps?
Post # 11
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Worker bee
@wifey2be That’s so funny I just tried widening the straps in photoshop to see if it balanced it out a bit. Maybe grossgrain ribbon?
Post # 12
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Worker bee
@wifey2be That’s so funny I just tried widening the straps in photoshop to see if it balanced it out a bit. Maybe grossgrain ribbon?
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
@Obow: #2 is not complimenting you and I’m not sure why–maybe it’s this photo, your posture, or maybe it’s not fitted to you.
But based on your description, I’d for sure use dress #1. What accessory will make you feel elegant and special that day? The right pair of shoes? A simple, flowy veil? Sure, you can always add something at the waist, lace is an interesting idea. Bling or a flower are the standard options and lace is something a little different.
Since you are a DIYer, a tour through a fabric store will giv eyou ideas.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
@Obow: I usually love tulle ball gowns, but for some reason that one doesn’t seem right. Your body looks so thin in dress 1 but not as flattering in dress 2. Is dress 2 fitted? It seems like the bodie should be tighter to accent your waist.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
As an Internet stranger, I think the 1st one looks more “you”:)
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
@Obow: I think that #1 is more flattering on you (with the suggestions made above ie a lace belt, perhaps wider straps although I like the straps as they are) and it also “goes” more with the aesthetic you’re trying to achieve. I think #2, while a nice dress, isn’t at all bohemian or vintage.
A very ong very simple veil, or a flower and feather headpiece with a romantic, deconstructed up-do, a lace belt (or lace applicae at the waist) and either dangly earrings or a “statement” necklace and I think it will pull together beautifully!