(Closed) The 'Give Us Cash' Poem.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

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BaileyBee87:  Loved the poem, until the HOWEVER! In fact, I think I may change ours to use the this instead of “Your presence is our present”

 

All we really want from you

Is for you to share our day

To watch us become man and wife

And get our new life underway.

 

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Grossss. Sorry, I would immediately roll my eyes and then laugh about it to my FI/mom! 

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

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mazz246:  it’s not just your peers you have to take into consideration here.  Aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, neighbours…whomever else you have invited.  I guarantee there will be a number of them who side-eye the crap out of an awkwardly veiled attempt to solicit them for cash.

If it’s not okay to ask for cash on a general basis (barring charity events which weddings are not) then why would it be okay to do for a wedding?

Post # 66
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Bumble bee

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LDay1983:  no. You missed my point. I prefer give money than hope I pick something they may not need. But obviously from these boards, not everyone thinks money is an appropriate gift. If they have a registry, I get something from the registry, if they imply money, money, if they dont indicate either, I’m stuck and then depending on my relationship with them, I make a decision. My point- it’s nice for people to tell you want they want. It’s a wedding, it’s about the couple so I don’t let my preferences of opinions take precedent. That’s selfish. 

Post # 67
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Bumble bee

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LDay1983:  those that side eye, aren’t worth my time and probably weren’t invited in the first place. As many have said, it’s the norm (perhaps that’s just sydney) and I’d say 2/3 invites have it. 

Post # 68
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Buzzing bee

Glad you’re not using it anymore. It’s totally cringeworthy. 

Post # 69
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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BaileyBee87:  This is very, very, very off-putting. It may be normal in your area but if I received a wedding invitaion begging for money like this I would absolutely bring a toaster instead.

Post # 70
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I personally think that poem is awesome haha! We don’t really do cash gifts often where I’m from either but if I got something with that poem I’d love it and totally know to just bring a $$ gift to the wedding- mission accomplished! Doesn’t seem tacky to me at all because it doesn’t push the subject what-so-ever, “if you really must..” is a cute start even bringing up the present. I say do it!

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

To clarify my post too, I think that would be a perfect thing to put on your website. No need to add it to the invitation! 🙂

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper

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weddingmaven:  It is funny that you mentioned this. You are absolutely 100% correct in that the offical etiquette on asking for cash is the same in Australia as it is in the US. 

It is written extremely clearly in Ita Buttrose’s (the Miss Manners of Australia) book on Australian etiquette. 

Post # 73
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Helper bee

Glad you’ve dropped it OP.  I live in Aus too and have seen a few poems requesting cash gifts.  It is the done thing by some couples?  Yes.  Is it still grossly tacky?  Also yes.

Post # 74
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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BaileyBee87:  

Personally, I don’t think it’s a big deal. You’re letting people know what you want, usually I give cash gifts anyways. That being said, I don’t think it would go over very well…

I don’t know whee you live, but I know if I included a money poem I would NEVER hear the end of it. I agree with other bees, see what your family thinks, if they’re on board, go for it!

As for the poem itself, I think it’s cute! Well done, if you go the cash poem route, this one is a winner. 🙂

Post # 75
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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BaileyBee87:  

I just scrolled up and saw your last comment. Ekk, sorry! You’ve already made up your mind.

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