(Closed) The Gluten-Free Guest

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Ok, what should happen?

    Note it on the RSVP, regardless of whether it asks for dietary restrictions.

    Push food around on the plate at the wedding or attempt to make husband eat both ;).

    Contact the bride/groom personally.

    Something else I'm not thinking of?

  • Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @jo.lee:  We haven’t sent out invites yet (our wedding is a year away) but I know at least 10 of our guests are gluten-free, so we’re actually going to have our vegetarian option be gluten-free…so that it accomodates both dietary restrictions (we can’t offer a choice of entrees as our venue charges a TON to add a meal choice option, but they do allow for a vegetarian option without an upcharge). We’re also serving a cake for 75, and gluten free cupcakes for 25 guests. 

    Most brides and grooms want to accomodate their guests dietary restrictions. If you contact them, I’m sure they can find something that you can eat. 

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee

    Hi there! Ach, so sorry about your diagnosis! Being gluten-free sucks for social events (though my waist line loves it!)

    Being coeliac myself, I’ve gone into extra effort to make sure people aren’t served food that they’re allergic to. Not only would I feel awful about it, but it is a complete waste of money for their meal! Plus, I want them to have an amazing time, and food is a part of that! 🙂

    I would personally contact the bride/groom to let them know because although I have a lot of knowlegde of the allergy, I’m really surprised by questions I’m asked by my friends. (“Can you eat eggs?” “What, you can’t have bread?” – not even the answer “If it has flour in it, I DEFINITELY can’t eat it!” doesn’t get their heads around it!)

    Sometimes just “gluten-free!” isn’t enough information for some people.

    All the weddings I’ve been to, I’ve been suitably catered for. I even managed to cause one of the brides to change her dessert entirely! When the groom found out I was having Eton Mess, he wanted Eton Mess, and then so did his mother! So everyone got it! That was awesome 🙂

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I didn’t put anything on the RSVPs, but we each called the folks who we knew had dietary restrictions. Worked out fine.

    Post # 20
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 1993

    Any caterer or venue can handle that request no problem. I am a caterer, and it is really common and i do it all the time. It is not an issue. In fact it is so common that when I design menues I deliberately make much of the food gluten-free. It isn’t that hard. Food professionals are very aware of allergies and other food-related needs. Sometimes the waitstaff isn’t so aware, and you can run into problems there (they forget to notify the chef, or don’t understand that salad dressing on the side is important) but the chefs should all be very clued in.

     

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

    My officiant is Gultain free and so I am placing the Dietary Restrictions line on my rsvp. Deff give a curtisy call to the bride and just let her know that yo have been made aware of this allergy

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    You need to tell the bride and groom.

    Fiance is gluten-free. He was once served a vegetarian meal instead of the gluten-free option at a fancy dinner. This resulted in him having to spend hours in Accident and Emergency to control the extremely painful spasms the gluten caused. He had to take codeine for the rest of the week to deal with the pain and could hardly eat. You do not want to go through that!

    We are going to have a gluten-free wedding. I follow a low gluten diet too so it makes sense.

    Please speak up!

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I can’t have gluten either.  Normally I just call and ask.  It’s pretty easily accomodated these days.    My caterer personally just said to let him know how many meals need to be made gluten free and they’ll take care of it.  I know we have at least one guest coming with a severe peanut allergy, so they’re well aware of that.

    Post # 24
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    Honey Beekeeper

    I would call the venue myself.  However, I have never been to a wedding where there would be nothing for a gluten intolerant individual to eat. 

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Let them know.  It’s pretty common nowadays so there are probably others with gluten free diets attending.  I know that we have 2 on our guest list.

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We have a few guests with different allergies/restrictions (including myself, my brother, and two BMs). We didn’t put anything on the RSVP, but we will be reaching out to people and getting them to email us with their info. When you have allergies, it’s scary to eat out! Good luck – and I’d say also let them know well in advance, so they can deal with their caterers without it being a last-minute rush.

    Post # 27
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m gluten free as well, so I totally get it. I would write it on the RSVP just in case, but I’d also probably mention it to the bride/groom (depending how close we are, etc). The only weddings I’ve attended as an adult, my friends have known about the gluten thing already so they automatically request me a gluten free meal. Most venues have no problem with this whatsoever. 

    Post # 28
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m gluten free as well, so I totally get it. I would write it on the RSVP just in case, but I’d also probably mention it to the bride/groom (depending how close we are, etc). The only weddings I’ve attended as an adult, my friends have known about the gluten thing already so they automatically request me a gluten free meal. Most venues have no problem with this whatsoever. 

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I will have a guest that will have several dietary restrictions, including gluten. I’m glad I know about it and I plan to ask her to outline for me what kind of meal I should ask the caterer to prepare for her. I hope if any of my other guests have similar restrictions, they will let me know. I will be including a line on the RSVP card asking vegetarians and other guests with restrictions to contact me and discuss their meal options. I voted you should contact the couple. 

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Our best man, as well as several others at our wedding, have celliac. Our caterers had no problem accomodating – they just needed to know!

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