(Closed) The Good, the Bad, and I’m Ugly…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@annasaf83: Aw, Anna, I’m so sorry that you feel this way. Waiting is hard!!! I’m engaged but I’m waiting for my ring. That’s also hard. We get married in 4 months! We are paying for the wedding all by ourselves, so the ring is not priority–the wedding is, but that still doesn’t mean that waiting for the actual ring isn’t hard.

 

I have PCOS too! You seriously have to go to PCOSChallenge.com to get support. PCOS ladies have it hard, but I have hope. I also learned a lot from their radio and tv shows at PCOS.tv. Definitely check it out.

Post # 4
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ahh sounds like your on an emotional rollercoaster at the moment, I can relate. But just out of curiosity, why would your SO talk about that you should not expect your ring at Christmas, after having to console you twice earlier in the day, that seems a bit insensitive on his part πŸ™

I really hope you have your proposal soon, but it’s good he is listening to what kind of ring you would like πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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80 posts
Worker bee

@annasaf83: Big hugs to you.  we all have our shit days.  I have PCOS and I have a daughter, anything is possible πŸ™‚ Weddings and rings don’t need to cost the earth, can you compromise on price or quality or contribute, or something to bring it forward?

Try to still have an awesome Christmas! x

Post # 7
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2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Aww!! I am so sorry to hear that. I am sure he just needs to work through some things.

How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? If I go by your screen name of ’83, you should be 28 right now. So that’s still not very old even with PCOS. 

If the baby-making is really what is bothering you, then think abt it… If your SO feels you two cannot afford to survive on what he currently makes, how do you think he will feel if you throw the baby in the mix? I know it is not your fault that you have PCOS. But I feel that your SO is sh*t scared that as soon as he pops the question, you are gonna want to pop out a baby. (which is COMPLETELY understandable given your condition) but he is scared from a financial standpoint. It’s a VERY SCARY feeling for any man not to be able to provide for his family.

Turn your issues into a positive thing… Stop worrying abt the ring and start worrying about getting a better job to support your future child. That will sound more meaningful to you in your own head to push you hard enough. Ya, I know that you need a ring, then a marriage, then the baby. You should still do it that way, however think about what’s more meaningful than a ring and/or marriage: your child.

 

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