(Closed) The Good, The Bad, The Dreaded ‘T’ word…

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I like ALL of those ideas!  But maybe all of them would be overwhelming – for instance, I think either a candy bar or a hot cocoa bar, but you don’t need both.  If you want to give out hot cocoa, you could always put those hot cocoa cones out on the candy table more as a favor….

LOVE the centerpiece idea -and the tree idea.  I’m not sure what you mean about the little books, but they sound cute. 🙂

Remember to make this YOUR wedding – believe me you don’t want to have regrets AFTER the wedding.  

Post # 4
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would NOT do an xmas tree!!! Plus, there will probably be one in the lobby, right? I decided against a chocolate fountain, it’s soooo 5 years ago. I love classy candy cars, I’m having one but I want it to be really elaborate and over the top … I’ll include a picture that I like of one I saw online. I really like a hot cocoa station!!! Include coffee drinks too.

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Post # 5
596 posts
Busy bee

– I’ve seen candy bars at formal affairs and they’re great!  I think they look very elegant in glass jars, especially when they are color coordinated.

– Tall silver branches with crystal snowflakes sound very elegant to me.  I’m not sure I understand the battery pack centerpiece idea?  I’m not good at visualizing though.

– The thing with favors is that no matter how unique or personal people try to be with them, 99% of them are absolutely useless and get thrown away if they are not edible.  What would people actually do with these little wedding-related books once they get home?  I don’t think it’s a matter of it being not formal, just that it’s probably not a favor that will get much/any utilization.

– I would probably stay away from a Christmas tree – somehow, that feels more like a holiday party to me than a wedding.  Unless that’s the festive feeling you’re going for, but otherwise, sorry I agree with your mom on this one.

– A hot cocoa bar sounds absolutely awesome – I’ve never seen one in person though so I don’t know how the logistics work.  Does it get messy?  Do people serve themselves?

– I’ve never seen an ice luge so I can’t comment…but your description makes it sound really cool.  

– I’m sure there are ways to make the chocolate covered forest look more elegant than what your mom might be picturing in her head.  Maybe she’s just picturing a chocolatey mess on sticks?

Overall, I think your ideas are very creative!  Why don’t you try looking for pictures online and in magazines or creating mini mock ups of some of the ideas you’re serious about to illustrate to your mom that these ideas can be very elegant?

Post # 6
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm

– A candy bar sounds great, and you can keep it formal looking with the right setup.

– I like the silver branch idea, the other sounded really plain but maybe I’m not picturing it right

– Could be cute if they fit in with the formal look, again i’m not sure what the books look like but just picture them in your setup to see if it fits in.

– Not a fan of the Christmas tree idea, unless you are going for a christmas theme.  If it’s just a winter theme I’d go with other decorations.

– Hot cocoa bar sounds fun and again the setup can make it appear more sophisticated depending how formal you want to go.  

 – An ice luge for drinks – sounds great.  Seems like the really fancy weddings use ice for something!

– Again I think this could be cute, just find the right display and you can make any of these ideas fit your formal feel 

Post # 7
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love your ideas. Since you didn’t fall far from the tree, I’d stick to your guns with your mom.  Maybe you could prioritize your list so that you can concede on certain items when she wants  you to change something…

The hot cocoa bar sounds divine!

Post # 8
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

More about hot cocoa bar, I read somewhere, cannot remember where, about something to do w/ hot chocolate served at a wedding! They did a big homemade marshmallow in a the cup, provided different fancy liquors, fresh whipped cream – like mint flavor & regular, sprinkles – like chopped up toffee/chocolate/peppermint etc.. Also, it would be so nice to include lattes and cappuccinos. You could even serve little biscottis and maybe a chocolate dipped spoon? Hmm. I might do this too! [attachment=175633,12301] [attachment=175633,12302]

Post # 9
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I’ve seen formal weddings with several of these things incorporated, don’t worry! Our moms/family members/fiancés are not inundated with modern wedding-industry trends like we are, so maybe it’s just that they haven’t seen these ideas implemented yet. Some of them I might not combine, like having a candy bar *and* a marshmallow bar… but they are good ideas and it’s great to see so many trends focused on offering something creative for guests.

Also, you’re in the early stage of planning, so many of these ideas you have now will change shape or be dropped entirely as the vision for your wedding evolves. So, plan away! The early stage of planning is the fun part. So many things to choose from!

Post # 11
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I love the idea of a cocoa bar, but agree with MrsK2be–I’d go either cocoa or candy, but not both.  If you go candy, DEFINITELY add the chocolate forest!  I’m not sure where you’d put it if you ix the candy bar.  The centerpieces sound incredible.  

I could go either way on the christmas tree branches–they’re not my style, but a lot of things aren’t, and that doesn’t make them good or bad.  Someone else brought up checking out what other holiday decorations will be nearby–if your guests walk past a dozen Christmas trees on the way in, I think it might seem like beating a dead horse… 

My gut is that an ice luge and weddings don’t make a particularly good mix.  I could be wrong, but in my family, it would cause more trouble (my grandmother would probably make a scene and try to storm out) than it’s worth. 

The mini books are different than the standard favors, which is kind of nice, but they’re also pricey!  I’d want to spend my budget elsewhere. 

Post # 12
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I really like a lot of your ideas as well. I think the great part is it is your wedding do what you want. Who wants to go to the same wedding over and over again.

Although I do think ALL of that can get quite expensive!!!

Post # 13
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i say do the hot cocoa bar during cocktail hour.  it’d be cheaper than actually serving alcohol (unless you wanna spike it with some baileys or kahlua for the adults) and you get to do it!

Post # 14
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I think a cocoa bar during the cocktail hour would be way too heavy. It’s more like a dessert to me. What about a cookie and hot cocoa bar. Yummy! Warm cookies and hot chocolate? Yes, please! 

Post # 15
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I pretty much agree with everyone else, except on the trees and the ice luge. I assume from your other suggestions that you are thinking something simple and elegant: white lights, minimal decoration. Those would look quite nice.

The ice luge… if it is something pretty that the bartender uses, that is one thing. But I keep thinking more like a shot luge, which I have seen and think will not fit your mood. Maybe I’m totally wrong about this, but I would just rather have my drink handed to me. The luge just sounds a little too sorority party.

Post # 16
484 posts
Helper bee

I’m assuming your wedding is in the winter. Sounds like maybe you have a "winter wonderland" kind of feel going on? Try and think about how each of the things you want fits in. There are so many things I want to pull into my wedding but I have to keep checking myself and saying – Will a wheatgrass centerpiece go at my Vintage Hawaiian wedding? Probably not. Another thing to think about is maybe you might not want too many different features because they might start to distract from each other.

I love a lot of your ideas – hot cocoa? yes, please! And all of them could be done to fit with the ‘elegant ballroom’ venue. You could probably combine the chocolate forest with the candy buffet. (Just a thought to dust the chocolate ‘trees’ with powdered sugar as snow?)

RE: The Christmas tree – I went to wedding once that was just after Christmas (early Jan) and they had a Christmas tree (I think it was just the venues, not their decoration) but it was absolutely stunning. I’m biased because I do love Christmas (like, obsessively) but many people there commented that the tree was beautiful. You can decorate it elegantly (or however to match your colors/feel).

Good luck! Whatever you end up doing will be amazing because YOU love it!

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