- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Just a bit of a background story of my Fiance and I as this is my first post. We have been engaged for as long as I can remember (6 years) . A year into our relationship he proposed and with no doubt in my mind I happily said yes. In true reality with no words ever spoken we were engaged and ready to marry the moment we met. Yes we started the wedding planning and stopped and continued this on and off pattern many times since then; as is the case life happens and oh yes that thing called money. Just to toot my horn during this 6 year time I did become the first among my brother and sisters to obtain a bachelors and masters and well now with this wedding I will be the first to have a full blown church wedding. The battle within me has always been that I do not care much for the materialistic items, so this wedding with all the cost just baffles me and sends me up the wall. I do not want to impose on my parents and ask for money nor do I want to rely on the traditional padrinos (wedding sponsors) Mexicans tend to have, so it leaves us with the responsibility of doing some magic.
So here I am with a used wedding dress. What is ironic about the situation every time I went to thrift stores for random reasons, I always made a pit stop at the wedding dresses never finding anything but old fashioned ones; I would jokingly tell my Fiance it would be the day that I find a wedding dress for 15 or 30 dollars. He always reassuringly would tell me I would….So lets back track a little to the events leading up to that day. I had been looking at wedding dresses online and I became more and more discouraged as I looked at the costs. I jotted down some salons in my area and thought I go through what I consider an uncomfortable experience of trying on wedding dress in front of people. (Never do I walk out of dressing rooms to display the clothes I am trying on (In the 6 years I have been with my Fiance I can count on one hand the amount of times I have done that for him). So ya flustered and saddened I went off to different thrift stores to see if they had any random items I could use for work decorations (shopping therapy). Just for laughs stopped by at the wedding dress sections and nothing. Through the whole process I had an internal conversation with God and how discouraged I was with the possibility of getting married and it donged on me that maybe I could find some decorations at a thrift store I only visited a couple times as a child (Yes this is the conversations I have random I know).
And there it was at the end of the rack hanging in all its glory. No size or name brand tags only an orange one that clearly stated $24.95. I doubled back pulled it out fully from its overstuffed rack and smiled because at that moment I knew I had found my dress. It had all my requirements lace, a line with straps. I knew it was a couple sizes too small, but I also knew that my current weight was not the weight I would marry in. So I paid for it in full cash and brought it home to try on. And I love it!!! So, I have wedding dress, which I am visiting the gym everyday to fit into. I don’t know what size it is but I am currently size 14/16 in pants and I feel if I was 10/12 in pants I would fit perfectly into it. I once was that size a year ago to be precise, so I guess this is life’s’ ironic slap across my face for letting myself go. I looked up the dress online, I don’t think its name brand nor is it that expensive appx 300 I think , but I find it to be the most beautiful thing ever.