Post # 1
I just took the Facebook app off my phone. I just start to get too…dare I say jealous…sometimes when I’m in there seeing all the engagement, marriage, wedding, kids, anniversaries, first home posts all the time. I get that it doesn’t mean they’re happier than me, but I can’t help but think “what about me?!” Lol.
I still have my account, but having to go to a computer to look will lessen my boredom browsing my feed all the time. Anyone else have these problems or feel this way? Or am I just being too mental?
Post # 2
No you’re not. I got rid of it two years ago for the same reason. It was no longer serving me so I just deleted my account.
I am now engaged, and have no desire to create another Facebook account.
Post # 3
I think it’s normal especially when you are waiting. I had to watch my FIs friends get engaged and get married before I ever got my ring. They met a month before us. But not everything is greener. They are still living with parents and we own homes and know how to adult lol. They’re traveling and going out way too much as we plan our future. You just have to be thankful for what you have.
Post # 4
There have been many, many studies on this if you google. It’s not just you at all, and it’s not just “waiting” people who feel this way! We have just gotten so used to social media being part of the fabric of our lives, but really, there is no rule that we have to have one at all.
Post # 5
lumiko: I find myself becoming a bit envious of people on FB as well. I know it’s silly and I should be thankful for what I have but I can’t help it sometimes! I actually hid a few people from my feed (which I know is sooooo immature) but it did help!
Good idea taking it off your phone you help ground you a bit!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2014 - Figtree Resturant Byron Bay
I find myself being jealous of people… but what I keep forgetting is that we only ever put the good on facebook. No one ever posts about their money troubles, relationship issues etc (well some do).
We just have to remember that Facebook does not really show peoples true lives, it shows us what they want us to see.
Post # 7
HairyBlairey: the ones that do post their troubles are attention-seekers. Best to just hide the super, “oh-my-life-is-sooo-great” posts LOL 🙂
Post # 8
ditto. I take breaks sometimes for that reason.
Post # 9
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
My experience with Facebook is that those who really have nothing/nothing going on in their lives post constantly. “Beautiful things don’t seek attention”.
Post # 10
I honestly don’t envy the people on fb. They forget some of us know them in real life.
Post # 11
This is why I never had one (and people give me a hardtime about it too). Majority of people will post stuff that favors them such as being gifted with a jewelry by their SO, eating at an expensive restaurant, going to an exotic vacation, etc. But the same people will almost never post anything about how they just lost a thousand dollars from gambling, or they just got fired from a job because of their own fault or how they haven’t talked to certain people in years from family drama. Of course there are exceptions…but very few. I even know people who will take 30 selfies and only post the only good one under very controlled lighting and practiced facial expression. Anyway, I think you get the point that FB can be an illusion and anyone can be whoever they wanna be.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2016 - Loveless Barn
I definitely think what you’re feeling is normal and you made a good call. With that said, I don’t think it’s fair to assume that everyone that posts on FB is miserable or hiding their feelings. It’s ok to only share vulnerable moments with the people who you know are supportive of you. If the comments here are any indication, you’re damned if you post happy times or unhappy times. Probably we should all just only be friends with those we can actually be happy for.