(Closed) The Great Bar Debate!

posted 10 years ago in Food
  • poll: Pick Your Poison
    Open Bar : (123 votes)
    45 %
    Cash Bar : (23 votes)
    8 %
    Cocktail Hour Open Bar : (18 votes)
    7 %
    Beer/Wine/Signature Drink : (96 votes)
    35 %
    Dry : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Other : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Beer/wine/sangria was the way to go for us for our backyard reception. We have a fun/rowdy crowd coming, but I know they’ll have fun whether or not there is “hard” alcohol involved! (Its also way cheaper and less of a logistical challenge to transport up onto the mountain where we are holding the reception!)

    Post # 18
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We had an open bar, and we got married in Upstate New York. For us, it was never a question, but I also more than understand when couples do the beer/wine/signature drink route.

    Post # 19
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I guess open bar is not standard everywhere.. I am from NY, getting married in NJ  but its pretty customary to have open bars here. People tend to give lots of money as wedding gifts and it would be strange having them pay for drinks after they just dropped an envelope with $300 into the gift box.

    Also our place included a 5 hr open bar, for cocktail hr and reception, with top shelf liquors, any drink or shot you want, beer, champagne toast and anything else you can think of. We are paying about 100 per person and thats including literally EVERYTHING food wise and drink wise one can think of. Without open bar it actually wouldn’t have been much cheaper. We are having a russian-jewish-military wedding and if we had to entertain the thought of cash bar it would not go so well with the family! Should be an itneresting bunch after 5 hrs of drinking lol

    Post # 20
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    1001 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    People don’t really give lavish gifts here.  I’d say around $75-$100 is customary.

    I’m invited to weddings #28, 29, and 30 this summer, so I’d be in the poor house if I had to gift $300 for each of them.

    Post # 21
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    I voted twice!  We had a Destination Wedding last month and it was open bar, but there were only 60 people.  Then two weeks later, we had a 200-person reception in my hometown.  At that event, we provided beer & wine but guests had to pay for cocktails.  It really worked out just fine.  We were sure there was a sign posted on the bar that read, “Complimentary Beer & Wine” ~ so guests could [and did] read between the lines, that they’d have to fork over a little cash for a cocktail.  Not surprisingly, most people stuck to beer & wine but we saw a few mixed drinks out there in the crowd, so obviously people didn’t have a problem with it.  I think the sign is uber important though, so that people don’t get embarrassed if they get to the bar and order something without having any cash on them (hello tiny clutch purses that barely hold a lipstick). 

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We’re holding the reception at a non-traditional location, so we are doing our own bar (hiring staff, renting equipment, buying alcohol). We are having wine, beer, two signature cocktails, and three types of liquor with basic mixers (so, you can order rum, vodka, or whisky on thre rocks, neat, with soda, with sprite, with cranberry, or with coke). This should give a wide range, and majorly cut down on costs. For 120 people, my bar will be less than $2000.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Open bar was the only choice at our venue. You could pick your tier of alcohol, and add in things like martinis/mojitos, etc, but you had to start with an open bar.

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Like @polinar1021 said, in NJ an open bar is customary. In fact, it was the one thing my father requested. We will have 2 bars for 100-125 people, a champagne toast and drink service tableside. Since we are having our wedding at a hotel, all is included in our per person price.

    Post # 25
    Bee
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

    We are doing beer/wine/sig drink but that is only during the tapas portion of the reception.  Then we are having a full coffee/tea bar with a whole lot of different mini deserts.  Hoping it will help some of our heavier drinkers sober up before they have to head home.

    Post # 26
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Since I am in WI, I think I can get away with all you can drink beers. 

    Post # 27
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    @chee – I’d like to come to your wedding.  I heart beer.  🙂  HA!!!!

    Post # 28
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    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We’re doing open bar beer and wine (cash for hard liquor) with a consumption cap of $1,000.  We have 85 guests but that includes ten+ kids and fifteen or so sober people so the function manager thinks $1k is a good amount to cap it at. 

    Post # 29
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Thanks @Farfromachildbride!  I love beer. 

    Post # 30
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    1001 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Me too!  I could drink a beer anytime, anywhere.

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Open bar! We are having a formal reception and just want our guests to have a blast! It’s only adults, downtown Boston so everyone will be within walking/cab distance of their hotel. Open bars are the norm in my area.

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