(Closed) THE GREAT DEBATE PRIVATE VS PUBLIC

posted 9 years ago in Parenting
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  • Post # 47
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    Bumble bee

    It would definitely depend on where we were living and how our children would feel. I went to public school in an upper middle class neighborhood and the school was known for having an excellent academic program, but ONLY as far as the high honors program. Honors and high honors were considered two different things. 

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    @PinkMagnolia:  This is fascinating to me because out here, the catholic schools have A LOT of Jewish students. 

    Post # 49
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    It depends. The only private schools in our area are Catholic schools. The primary (elementary) school just down the street from our house is the best one in town and it is a public school, so our kids will definitely be going there. If we are still living here when it’s time for them to go to high school then they will be going to the public schools. All of the schools in our area are fantastic schools though so I guess it’s not really a huge deal.

    Post # 50
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If I could find a non-religious private school I would send my future kids there in a heartbeat. It seems as though those don’t really exist and I just don’t know if the trade-off of the more attentive education is worth having religion forced on my kids (that I don’t have yet).

    Post # 51
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It depends on the area.  I went to public school, and it was ranked substantially higher than the area private schools.  Where I live now, the private schools aren’t really that good. 

    So, I’d evaluate if the public schools were decent, or if the private schools were better, and go from ther.e

    Post # 52
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I went to public school up until highschool then I went to a private catholic high school. I was top of my class all through primary but in highschool I feel like their main focus was trying to shove religion down our throats and education came second. So it really depends on the school.

    Post # 53
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Dh and I both went public… it was an OK experience but as a parent i want whats best for my child and in the area where we live.. private is that way to go.

    Post # 54
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @MrsCarnival:  Many technical “religious” private schools don’t shove religion at the students.  My private school was “founded on Christian principles” but there was nothing religious at all about the day to day life of the classes, students, teachers, etc.

    Post # 55
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @MrsCarnival – The private school I went to was a Catholic school, and my family isn’t Catholic (we’re Christian). I didn’t feel like they shoved religion on the students. We did attend Mass once a week, but as far as the school curriculum, it was very much “normal”, it didn’t have religion worked into every class. Catholic students had to take religion class, but for non-Catholic students the class was optional. We even learned about topics like birth control, even though the Catholic religion technically doesn’t beleive in birth control.

    Post # 56
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I would never send my child to a private school. At least not any of the ones in my area. We only have Christian private schools here, where required classes include Bible Study..daily, and Church weekly, etc. While I believe in God, I also know that the more you shove something down someones throat, expecially a child, they’ll rebel. Majority of the parties I went to in highschool (puplic) were at the private school kids’ houses, and they were the drunkest, sluttiest, worst children i’d met. I think children learn better in an envionment where they are free to express themselves. Mind you i’m only talking about the private schools in my area.

    Post # 57
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My kids will go to a public school. I am picky on the school they will go to though. For example, if they are still living in the same house we are so close to buying when they are in highschool then I will be taking them to a different school. They WILL NOT go to the highschool our house is by. I grew up in this city and I know the reputation that school holds. I would really like to not have my child be a druggie protitute who drops out in sophmore year TYVM which is what this specific school has gotten in trouble for so so so so many times.

    There are other really awesome schools in the same district.

    Post # 58
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If I can afford to buy a house in a better area i will send my daughter topublic but this area sucks so she is at a private school right now ! 

    Post # 59
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @Mrs.KMM:  

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    @abbyful:  

    Thank you for your perspective. I’ve actually heard that about a lot of religious private schools, but the other part of my concern is simply the attitude of the other students. I’m sure that many students at a private religious school hold strong beliefs and I think it would be hard for a child to not fall in with a majority peer group if they are surrounded by that worldview. We are definitely not Christian and while I don’t take any personal issue with those who are, I don’t really want it taught to my children (along with any other organized religion) whether it be directly or by proxy..

    Am I making sense? It’s early and I’m having a hard time with words today hahaha 😛

    Post # 60
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @MrsCarnival:  Well to continue giving you perspective ….

    Obviously this won’t be the case for all private schools, but the majority of my classmates were also not very religious.  I had a few friends who were very strong in their beliefs, but you’ll find some of those same people in public schools too.  Of the 65 that I graduated with who’s religious affiliations I even know, there was 1 hindu, 1 buddist, 1 jew, and 5 christians.  Everyone else, I have zero clue what, if any, religion they believe or practice because it just wasn’t pertinent.  For the most part, few of my classmates attended church and religious beliefs were never really a part of our conversations.

    Post # 61
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @Mrs.KMM:  I appreciate you responding again. I hope I didn’t offend you with my first post (it’s hard to interpret tone online and your first sentence suggests to me that you might be a little put-off by what I wrote…feel free to correct me if I’m misreading this one).

    I went to public schools and certainly had some very religious classmates, so I can completely relate to your point there. It’s encouraging to hear that your religiously affiliated school was so diverse in faiths and personalities, because that is my #1 fear about the private schools available to us. I know it will be different based on which school you attend, but with Christian culture so prevalent in America already I feel like a religious school would add another obstacle to our non-Christian child-rearing goals. I could be way off base (again, depending on which school because it seems as though there is more diversity that I had thought), but it’s certainly something that will require a lot of research and consideration before we make a choice.

    I’ve heard that there are some attempts in the works to fund secular private schools in my area, so I’ll be really interested to see how that pans out. To my knowledge, there isn’t one in the whole state right now.

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