Post # 1
I’m looking for more opinions on the great debate of a sit down vs. buffet (stations) dinner.
I am having a very formal, upscale wedding. It would probably be more fitting to have a served, seated dinner. But, personally, I always prefer a buffet/stations wedding.
My wedding coordinator is trying to talk me into the seated dinner (because he says it’s classier). But the buffet I am planning is a big a*s buffet! Ultimately it’s nearly twice as expensive as the seated dinner because I have added almost everything they offer. But yet, he’s still grumbling about it being a buffet.
You don’t have to say “you’re the bride–do what you want”, because I most definitely will! Just wondering what YOU think of the two and why you prefer one over the other.
Do you think that even a huge, beautiful, mother-of-all buffets is still inappropriate for an upscale wedding?
Post # 3
Hmmm….I always liked the plated dinners. As far as looking classy, I think they both could work. It’s not like you can only get the fancy china and chargers for only sit down dinners.
All of the buffets I have gone too, I was always either in the middle or to the last of the tables to get up. Not that waiting an extra 20 minutes or so is that long, but I get hungry!!!!
But also, I like how I can choose whatever I want to eat. Seems like with the plated dinners, there is always something I move to the side.
It’s a toss up. I don’t even know which route I’m going to go yet.
Post # 4
I prefer buffet also. It can still be done in a classy way..its not like the food is going to be all piled up in a messy mass. It sounds like the food is going to be high end so I don’t see a problem…
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s inappropriate at all. Could be fun and different. BUT, I hate the whole waiting in line forever thing at buffets…and sometimes people take too much food and sometimes the caterers take it away too fast.
Although, I’m doing a buffet 🙂 It’s cheaper, more fun, and I liked the food choices.
Post # 6
If you love buffet more, do it! I always appreciate choosing what/how much of something I want. We are doing a buffet.
Post # 7
We’re doing buffet, give people a choice that won’t cost way to much! lol
Post # 8
We are having an upscale wedding and we are also doing a buffet. I don’t see anything wrong with it. The only thing we are doing different with the buffet is to have someone serve my grandma. She will be 98 or 99, so we don’t want her to hold up the line, and we have to have her there because we all love her.
We are having passed h’orderves(sp) though.
Post # 9
I think that buffets are fine at upscale weddings if they are done well. All teh weddings I have ever been to have had buffets, but they were generally underwhelming. I hated waiting in the line. It seems to make a mess no matter what. Food starts to get that “re-heated” taste after a little while. That being said, no one in my family has ever had an “upscale” wedding. We’re talking low-to-mid range banquet halls here.
If the food is good and the people can move fast enough through the line, then I see no problem.
Post # 10
Yeah, I forgot to mention that I do prefer the vibe of a served dinner. I do agree with him that it’s classier. 🙁 But to me, the options of the buffet make it more appealing to guests.
And the issue of waiting in line…ugh. I don’t how to fix that one properly. There will have been a huge cocktail hour with a ton of food too so hopefully people won’t be starving.
Post # 11
I hate the getting-up-to-get-my-own-food aspect of the buffet. Seated dinners are so nice because someone brings all your food to you! 🙂 Also, most of the buffets I’ve gone to have definitely been bland, congealed foods, and they just look unappetizing. They’re also usually really standard choices–a pasta with some sort of tomato or cream sauce, a chicken in some sort of creamy sauce, and a carving station, with a few gravy choices. And the veggies are usually always either steamed and bland or drenched in some sort of sauce. So I haven’t had such good buffet experiences 🙁
The only exception was my FI’s holiday party last year and this past year. Both years, they were held at really high end restaurants or hotels, and the stations were really cool/yummy–they had make your own pad thai, and hand rolled sushi stations, and shortribs…really yummy foods. It sounds like yours will be more along these lines, in which case I say go for it! It made for a fun party, and people were mingling as they stood in line, which was nice.
Post # 12
First, I’d love to see the menus for each, because, well, I like looking at menus
I think a lot of what “works” depends on the reception itself. I’ve been to museum receptions, where stations made a lot more sense and were very, very elegant–it was great that folks could move around and look at things, and the way the stations were set up improved the flow.
On the other hand, sometimes buffets are just difficult in terms of people having to wait in line for too long, not enough space for waiting, difficulty coordinating with other guests in their “party” (if they go to different lines); and a sit-down dinner would have been far more preferable. I went to a wedding with a multiple-course sit-down dinner, and it was absolutely perfect; if you’re having multiple courses, I’d definitely go with sit-down.
So, I guess it depends. What’s the tone of your reception? What is the space like? Will guests run into traffic/waiting issues?
Post # 13
I don’t like the lines that come with a buffet, but if organized really well, I really like a buffet. You have more options, and as a general rule, wedding food rarely has enough vegetables. A buffet will usually mean I can get more veggies.
On the other hand, if you are going for a fancy-shmancy feel, I think a sit-down dinner with excellent table service (as in spring for more waiters) is the most elegant. If food arrives quickly, is presented well, the staff is attentive, a seated dinner is the most elegant option, IMO. As much as I love a buffet, I think you would get more bang for your buck with a multi-course seated dinner that had, like, one waitstaff per every 2 tables, than you would with a buffet.
Post # 14
We’re having an evening wedding with chef-attended action stations because we want a free flowing, up-and-around atmosphere where people eat, dance, and mingle as they see fit. To me, it makes for a more fun party when people aren’t stuck at a table for ~2 hours. And we are serving very high end food.
As for that being more or less formal, I don’t know. But you can certainly have food stations (or a buffet) at an upscale, classy event.
Post # 15
I have been to weddings that have done both. I like the sit down meal, but I think because I am open to eating whatever is put down in front of me. I think that buffet dinners work much better for people who like options and maybe are a little pickier. Plus, you can eat so much more food! I also think buffets can be classy, sit downs are just more traditional.
If you want a big arse buffet, then go for it!
Post # 16
I think sit down is definitely more formal but I would enjoy a buffet style better because it allows people to choose the foods they like. Unless you have a plated dinner with several options.
The only thing I’d say is have it pretty organized since you can’t have everyone going to the buffet at once – so people don’t have to wait too long.