- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
FTM here, expecting a little boy in February. Right now we are moving so it is driving me a little crazy because even with moving, the holidays around the corner, etc, my brain can only focus on one thing and that is getting ready for the baby. Luckily his room is already painted, the bed is here we just have to put it together and buy a mattress.
I think it is hard for a FTM to figure out exactly what a little one needs, oh and did I mention, we live in France where HELLO there are a million different products, brands, etc that I have never even heard of, I mean where is Johnson&Johnson baby shampoo when I need it. Just having those brands that we grew up with I think might make it easier to distinguish. I am however asking everyone I know which brands and products they trust, including my midwife at the hospital, nurses, mommy friends, etc.
So now to diapers! I am pretty sure I will be using Pampers New Baby disposable diapers at first just because I need to get the hang of just being a mom and changing diapers, but I don’t want to add any more laundry than ususal the first few weeks.
A couple weeks ago, my husband and I were in the car out running errands and I made the mistake of bringing up cloth diapers and my husband flipped out. Like how ridiculous could I be to even fathom the idea of using cloth diapers. Pregnancy hormones galore, of course I started bawling my eyes out, claiming that he shouldn’t be so hard on me, I’ve never been a mom before (nor he a dad) and I am just trying to find what works best. I think all options should be considered, right? I was thinking more in a practical and perhaps economical way because I will be staying at home with the little one for possibly the first year, so I won’t be making any money and I told myself why not at least try a combination of cloth diapering (for when we are at home) and use disposables when we are out and about.
Just for some background info, my husband thinks that we should use only disposable diapers, that breastfeeding is not important, why not just use formula? and I am sure there are some other annoying opinions that he has about taking care of baby that I won’t notice till the baby gets here. All in all, he is a super sweet guy but I just believe he is misinformed and also going by his own upbringing (formula fed, etc) where as my siblings and i were all breast-fed, hence my willingness to give it a go, while my husband gently and constantly reminds me that it might not work out, in France I have heard sooooooo many women say that they couldn’t breast feed due to lack of milk that I think it must be a national epidemic. I understand problems can come up that prevent successful breastfeeding so I try not to be so overly confident that I will be successful at it.
Anyway I would just like any opinions and info that all of you have about cloth diapers vs. disposables, how to make it work in a tiny city apartment (laundry and smells). Also is it normal for husbands to not understand the desire to get everything prepared for the baby??