- 11 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
I have some incredibly wonderful close friends and family that are just BEGGING to get knee-deep in bridal shower planning. Unfortunately, they do not see eye to eye.
The first is my Maid of Honor – who traditionally should be planning & hosting the bridal shower – and the second is one of my Aunts (more like a close family friend who is like an Aunt to me). Auntie is already generously doing all my flowers (for free!) as our wedding gift and unveiled her second gift to us at the engagement party last weekend – (12) 1 hour dance lessons. Obviously, she is multi-talented and extremely thoughtful. However, she has a tendancy to crunch in on other people’s plans when she gets excited.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is not thrilled with ANY of her ideas – which she shared with me even though they were supposed to be surprises – and is very resistant to her having anything to do with the planning. FYI – Auntie wanted to have a hat or shoe party and request that all guests wear funky hats or shoes. The Maid/Matron of Honor thinks this is ridiculous and wants a very traditional, relaxed party without asking people to wear anything and wants to play traditional shower games. Either sound like fun to me – but I’m a little peeved that the Maid/Matron of Honor is not only resistant to do anything "special" but is not "playing-well" will my "family". It’s almost like she wants my approval at all costs of the shower planning to feel validated.
Here’s what stresses ME out: why do I even need to know any of this? Isn’t it supposed to be a surprise? And I’m a little peeved at my Maid/Matron of Honor for venting to me about this on several occasions for sometimes almost 30 minutes a pop!
Other than seperating the two of them and having two showers – I’m not sure what solution would cause less drama than there already is! I’m just concerned that people will feel obligated to go to party-after-party, feel obligated to buy multiple presents or have one party be a huge success or failure! Suggestions anyone?