Post # 1
I need some advice…
I am not american bu have been in the country working with a VISA for years. it turns out my VISA expires in December 2012 and my only option is to apply for a green card if I want to stay in the country. I never wanted to have a VISA through marriage and was planning on getting on through work. I have been dating Fiance for 7 years and he proposed last year. We finally agreed on getting married in February 2013. Well it turns out that talking to the lawyer from my company I found out that the green card process through them will take a lot of time and I will probably not have it by Decemer which means I will not be allowed to work and probably loose my job. The lawyer advised me to go to the court house and get married ASAP as I am engaged anyway and then have my formal wedding in February.
But I don’t know how to bring that up to FI!
I am sure he will say: Let’s do it. But I am afraid of what his family will say… His grandma specially… She has made some jokes about me being with him for a green card in 2 separate occasions! Should I just ask him to keep it a secret? I am not marrying him for a green card but now it is kind of ; I need to get married now!
What should I do?
Post # 3
There is an option for a Fiance visa, I think its K1 or something I have heard about this from friends who went through this. so you can apply for that in the mean time until you do get married and then apply for the green card. If it was my fiance though I would be honest with him and probably want to have a civil marriage for now to get the papers rolling and still have the wedding in 2013.
Post # 4
I think you should talk to your Fiance. Maybe you can go to the courthouse now and keep it a secret, then have a big wedding celebration in Feb. Regardless of what you decide, you’ve been dating for 7 years so I think its silly that anyone would think its all about the green card.
Post # 5
there is a fiance visa, which does take longer than getting a green card through marriage.
Post # 6
Isn’t the fiance visa only good for a short period of time?
I’m in a similar situation.
But your fiance knows you love him for him not his citizenship. It just so happens that he can make your life a lot easier, so I do not see why not 🙂
Post # 7
I think you should talk to your Fiance. You don’t need to tell his grandma you’re already married if you don’t want to. Besides, it sounds like she just need to get over it… you’ve been together 7 years! Obviously you’d get married no matter what!
Post # 8
@kmsw: yea, I believe you get approved for a visa then have to get married within 30 days.
I think that if your relationship is legit and you know its true, why not get married and apply for it through marriage. Have your ceremony after?
Post # 9
@kmsw: The K1 (fiance) visa is only valid for 90 days once you enter the country. If you’re not married within that time, then you have to leave the states and re-apply.
@foreignbride: It is hard to say exactly what would happen if you and your fiance were to get married before your visa expires. There is a chance that you’ll simply be able to adjust your status after getting married without even leaving the country, although as far as I know that does not happen very often. (It’s not illegal I don’t think, but it’s definitely not something that the government likes you doing!) In most cases though, even if you are married beforey your visa expires – you will still have to return to your home country and have your husband file for a K3 (spousal) visa. These usually take ten months to get.