Post # 1
Hey Bee’s. My fiance and I recently discussed all things wedding related..when it was brought to my attention that it would the world to him if he could plan this wedding….on his own. The only thing he’d like me to be in charge of is picking out my dress and choosing my bridal party…Well thanks dear. LOL I trust his judgement, and I know everything will look beautiful. I’m only worried because he’s a procrastinator and he always does things last minute, I tried expressing my concerns about deposits and all the things he’d have to do and take care of, but I still feel like he’s not taking it seriously because he thinks we have a lot of time before we have to worry about it when realistically, we’re already behind. I do not have a problem with him planning this wedding as I easily get stressed and am free to chime in my opinion when I see fit, but I feel sort of de-feminized in a way, I feel like I’M the groom. I just want to know how common this sort of thing is, for the man to want to plan it. And what am I supposed to say when people ask how the plannning is going? “I’m not sure, Luke’s actually the one planning it all, you can ask him.”?! LOL Imagine the look on their faces! Anyone else NOT plan their wedding? Any regrets?
Post # 3
Hmm, if it wasn’t for the “Luke,” I might think you were engaged to my fiance. 😉 I keep trying to give input, but I feel pretty useless. Like yours, my man is a HUGE procrastinator. He is late to everything. He was probably born late. 😉
Post # 4
My sister got married while she was finishing med school and her Darling Husband planned everything but dresses and food. He is painfully detail oriented though so it worked for her.
If your wedding really isn’t until oct 2013 I don’t see what you could possibly be behind on at this point. Some women getting married in oct 2013 might not even be engaged yet!
For your piece of mind I might download one of those 12 month wedding checklists and hand it over to him, but let him know that if “venue” is a month 6 activity that you would really like it sealed and done in that month and not after. Then you get updates on the planning, he gets to plan, and you know that no one is drastically behind
Post # 5
Girl, good luck.. I could never hand it all over to my Fiance. LoL. Mostly because I really enjoy it & have been looking forward to this for years.
I think he’d do a good job, BUT until we started planning & I started dragging him around to different places, he really didn’t realize how early things needed to be done. He thought I was being ridiculous until we actually visited places & found out that there were others also inquiring about services for our same date. It’s like everything I say is “crazy”, until someone “professional” tells him the same damn thing I said. LoL.