(Closed) The Guest List Debacle…pretty much just a vent.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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584 posts
Busy bee

If you can comfortably have up to 150, I think you are more than safe inviting 160…they’re not all going to say yes. I think typical return rates are like 67% yes or so, sometimes fluctuating based on different factors. But I wouldn’t worry or make an issue out of 10 people, unless you’re doing it on principle, which is a different thing entirely. In fact, you are probably safe also inviting some of the friends you want there but haven’t added to the guest list. I know you just wanted to vent, but hopefully that will ease a little bit of stress? And if not, I’m sure it will work out anyway. 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mshoagie:

Really, you do not HAVE to do anything. You can tell the FIL’s that you are at max capacity and you are sorry. Let your Fiance know the same thing.

Maybe I am a mean person, but I am not forced to do anything. I would not want to spend any money on people who I do not like. The reception is for those who have been a positive influence in your life.

Post # 6
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d put my foot down. I was in a similar situation where my parents are paying for some and Fiance and I are covering the rest. We haven’t seen or been offered a dime from the FILS, but they gave us a huge list that included FFILs second cousins that Fiance didn’t even know. We just flat out told them we didn’t know these people so they weren’t getting invited. I would rather be surrounded (and shell out the cash) for family and friends we love to be there rather than have people we don’t know just to keep the peace.

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