- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Reaching out to any bees that can help me! We are having a 75 ppl reception when we come back from our destination wedding that will just be the two of us. the 75 ppl are basically both of our families (we have huge families) and a couple of some friends. I have been managing the A list and B list since some of my family members may not come, therefore I can invite more of our friends (hence B guest list).
As for +1s, we are planning to invite only those who are in a serious relationship, engaged or that we know them. Recently, my fiance’s cousin met a girl and are now boyfriend and girlfriend. My fiance’s mother and his aunt (cousin’s mother) said if we can invite the girlfriend out of courtesy, that she may not even come, but just as a courtesy to them. Now this is another bee post in itself, but to quickly mention that his parents can be very overbarring about wanting stuff their way for the wedding (food menu, we had to end up finding a venue because they did not want to let us borrow their backyard since it looked too “cheap” although keep in mind we will already be married and tried to keep it very low budget etc.)
In the end, we decided to invite her to avoid the drama that can lead to with his family. However, I feel like I am in a bind now. I have a few friends who while they are very close and mean a lot to me, we dont see each other as often because we live in different cities. I am aware that two of them are in a relationship and it seems very serious. While I really am doing my best to keep our wedding small, I feel like I should invite their SO?
I know I have invited two of our friends who are in a serious relationship, but we are also close to them and know their SO, while my other friends who I did not plan on inviting their boyfriend/girlfriend I dont even know them. I know in the end it will be my decision, but any thoughts or anyone who has gone through this and how did they deal with it?
Also, since we are on the topic of guest list, I have two friends who live on the other side of the US (east coast) and would like them to come. but would it be too far for them, or feel like since its a welcome home reception, why even bother?
Thanks thanks!! 🙂