(Closed) The guestlist…

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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1894 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had to make a similar rule to regain control of the guestlist from my Future Mother-In-Law. I told her that only people who could pick me out of a crowd could come (FI’s family is Polish so she feels everyone that she’s ever met should be invited).  FI and I are paying for the wedding ourselves as well, PURPOSELY, so that we can have full control of the guestlist and decisions. I also made sure to book a venue that only holds a MAX of 200 people, so that Future Mother-In-Law couldn’t keep adding people. Even with all of those hurdles and arguments, she’s managed to add 2 more people this week to the list and our wedding is in 2 weeks! Ugh. Guestlists are no fun! Congrats to you for eliminating people and saving money!!!!

Post # 4
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28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@maylove13:  no my FIs mother did the same thing. Then she goes well so-and-so want need an invite they know to come any way. I was looking dumbfounded. I didn’t think she had a say if she was not paying. FYI she called over thirty ppl to get their address and told them they were invited. My Fiance had to tell her we only have fifty invites and if they didn’t get one they could not just show up. So I see nothing wrong with saving your own money. That leaves more for the honeymoon.

Post # 5
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1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Good for you!!! Our guestlist went from approx. 60 to 125!! we can’t blame our folks though… all together they invited only an extra 12 people.

Thankfully, 25 people declined, but still – feeding 100 is WAY more expensive than 60. Just the facts.

Be kind with your folks but firm. If I could do this all over again, I’d go for a much smaller wedding.

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