(Closed) The hardest part is saying goodbye.

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Im so sorry. My heart is going out to you right now. I don’t have much advice but I know how hard it is to lose a pet, especially when you have had them since puppy, and I just want to wish you well. So long as you know your time together is special and that he will no longer be in pain, I am sure that will bring you the tiniest bit of comfort. Animals are so special. It is a gift we get to experience that kind of bond. So sorry, again.

Post # 4
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

ugh .. I am tearing just reading this. It is so hard to lose a fur family member *hugs* . There is a really great video that I cant seem to find of an owner giving their dog their “last day” and they do everything they love from swimming , playing , tearing up pillows to eating a T-bone steak and potatoes…Maybe doing something like this will give you comfort and a time to say goodbye. Again, so sorry.

Post # 5
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

(((Hugs)) I’m so sorry 🙁

Post # 6
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I know it’s so hard, and I can tell that you love him very much! I’m sure that when it comes time, you willl have the strength to do what is best for your baby.

My cat passed away this past spring after 18 good years. Old age caught up with her very quickly and we only had a day or two to adust to what was happening. My hubby asked if I would like him to take her to the vet that final time, but in the end we kept her home that extra day and then she passed away. I was comforted that she knew she was loved every day.

It’s hard and there’s nothing that will make it easier, but you will get through it. It’s ok to take an extra bit of time to come to terms before you make the decision. I know for me, it took some time to process what was going on and be ok with the next step.

Post # 7
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@LibraryBride2013: I can tell how much you love your buddy.  He is such a cutie and I’m sure he’s comforted you at times when you needed a little pick-me-up.  Now, it is time for you to gather up the courage so that he can go to the “Rainbow Bridge”.  Usually you will know it’s time when your doggie isn’t eating or drinking normally.  Or, you might just notice the look in his eye conveying that he’s “ready”. 

I have been in your shoes many times in the past and it doesn’t get easier.  But, I can tell you as much as your heart will ache because he won’t be there for you to love on anymore…you will feel better knowing that he will be in a place where he is no longer suffering or in pain.  If you’re afraid of the actual process, your vet will explain it to you.  It’s a very peaceful process…promise!

Here is my beautiful, Hunnie, who I had to put down last March.  I still think about her almost daily.  I miss her, but I know she’s waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge (as well as Casey, Kirby, Misty, Skippy, Samba, Amy, and Champ)

The Rainbow Bridge Poem:

Just this side of heaven is a place called the Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to the Rainbow Bridge.

There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again.

The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head. You look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together…

Post # 9
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@LibraryBride2013: Glad to hear that you had a better day and that we were able to help some!  Now, go love on your boy!  Wink

Post # 10
3204 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so sorry, this is such a hard thing to go through. I had a cat from when I was born til I was 18 and we decided that when she became listless and stopped eating that it was time. Up until that point she still took part in our daily lives and seemed to not be suffering too much, but as soon as we could tell that she couldn’t tell what was going on or care what was going on around her anymore that the pain and sickness had gone too far for her to live through any more. But really you are the only person that will have the best idea what is good for your pet. I’m so sorry…hope you find comfort in your family and good memories with your furbaby. 

Post # 11
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012


I love is poem! 





Last Night


I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.

I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.





I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,

“It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”


I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,

You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.


I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.

I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.


I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.

I want to re-assure you, that I’m not lying there.


I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.

I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said ” it’s me.”


You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.

I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.



It’s possible for me, to be so near you everyday.

To say to you with certainty, “I never went away.”



You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew…

In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.


The day is over… I smile and watch you yawning

and say “good-night, God bless, I’ll see you in the morning.”


And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,

I’ll rush across to greet you and we’ll stand, side by side.


I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.

Be patient, live your journey out…then come home to be with me.



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Post # 13
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Sending big hugs your way!

Post # 15
1827 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry to hear about your pup. I know it’s hard, but this is the best possible thing you can do for him now.

We lost our family dog last March (can’t believe it’s been almost a year) and I am so glad I was able to be with her in those final moments. It’s so important that they have your comfort and love as they pass.

Oh god and now I’m crying. I’m so, so sorry. It’s going to be hard but you’ll get through it, I promise.

Edit: And if it helps at all, the people who will be with you through this process are really great at what they do. The vet was so kind and compassionate and caring. She couldn’t have been nicer and she gave us as much time as we needed with Daisy. We got her creamated and when my mom picked up her remains, she was told that the man that does the cremations pets the animal and says a prayer for each and every one. It made me cry so much, but made me feel so much better knowing that she was put in the hands of so many people who truly cared

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