- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
For me, the hardest part of wedding planning hasn’t been the guest list or the selection of caterers and photographers. The hardest part of all of this has been sticking to what we, my Fiance and I, truly want for our wedding day and what represents us, as a couple, best. I’ve found myself listening to people close to us who are much more traditional and swaying in their direction, even though from the beginning I knew whatever it was wasn’t something we wanted. An example is wedding cake. Neither of us like cake, especially not wedding cake. Soon after we were engaged I mentioned to my Maid/Matron of Honor that we loved the idea of doing a cookie table and having various types of cookies and milks (dairy, almond, chocolate, etc.) and for our “cutting of the cake” we’d dunk cookies in milk and feed them to one another. We both thought the idea was so cute and so us. The response I received, “Cookies???…people will want cake!!” I believe people want dessert, not just cake. I always hear people complain about the damn cake. So we went from cookies to a dessert table, so guests would have a larger selection…and now, I’m back to thinking about cake because of a variety of other reasons. I don’t want cake!!!
So this morning, as I wandered through posts on WeddingBee, Green Wedding Shoes, Stylemepretty, and 100 layer cake I’ve held my head in my hands and said to myself, “is this you? is this a collaboration of the two of us or is it what everyone else thinks is best?” to every aspect of our wedding. It’s unfortunate that I’m going to begin making decisions between my Fiance and myself and not asking for my MOH’s opinion, because I don’t want it, in order for us to achieve the vision we want for our day.