We’ve been married a year and a half and have been together for 7 years.
The hardest thing we’ve gone through since being married is probably me losing my job last year for 6 or so weeks (luckily I was getting unemployment). Also, the only thing we really fight about from time to time is money (or lack thereof), and even that only happens, like, once every 6 months or so.
HOWEVER, very early in our relationship we went through A LOT, and I think those things have helped define us as people and as a couple.
We’d only been dating for 8 months when my husband’s dad had a sudden, massive heart attack (on Christmas night no less). He was in a coma for about 10 days (on life support) when they finally decided to let him go. He passed away less than 12 hours later.
My husband also lost his job after a year after that, and it took him 6 months to get another one, and another 6 months before he found a job he didn’t hate and wasn’t dangerous.
Then about a year after that, my mom got really, really sick from an infection (complications from kidney dialysis). She was in the hospital for 3 months and almost died, like, twice.
THEN, I lost 2 jobs….. in a row…..lol….loooooooooooooooooong ridiculous stories.
In the midst of all of this, we were constantly, desperately trying to get our own place and get engaged, but every time we’d start looking at apartments or whatever, something awful would happen.
Looking back, I think those things actually helped our relationship. I have no doubts that we will stand by each other no matter what. We’re strong. Yeah, they were extremely difficult, scary, and frustrating, but ….. now we are married and have our own house. Things aren’t perfect, but because of what we’ve been through in the past, I know we’ll get through anything.