(Closed) The highlight AND lowlight of your wedding

posted 9 years ago in Recaps
Post # 32
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would say the ceremony, since it was more than an hour long and truly was the highlight of my day. 

However, since you asked for something other than that, I would have to say walking in to the reception ballroom while we were being introduced.  It reminded me of the scene at the end of “Titanic,” when Rose walks in and everyone is applauding that she has finally arrived. (Of course, in “Titanic,” that meant she had died, haha, but in my case it was just so amazing and wonderful to walk in and see everyone standing and cheering and applauding for US!! 🙂

The lowlight has to have been when, after dinner, the person assigned to me by my venue came up to the bride’s room (where I had gone to, once again, get out of and back into my gown after a restroom break and have my make up retouched) to break the extremely upsetting news to me that it was now after 10 p.m. and that I only had an hour left of my reception!! I wasn’t wearing a watch, and no one had told me how incredibly behind schedule we truly were.  At this point, all we had done since my 6 p.m.-hour-plus-long ceremony started was get married, go upstairs for a short rest after standing in the heat outside for the wedding, have bride and groom pics taken outside, take about five shots of us (TOTAL!) with our wedding party, be introduced at the reception, have our first dance, the toasts, and dinner. At this point, I still had not yet had one second to greet my guests, we still needed to do our dances with our opposite-sex parents, cut our cake, and have all of our family pictures taken! I was beyond devastated! I had gone upstairs thinking I had the whole rest of the night to just enjoy my wedding with all of these wonderful, special people who had traveled so far to see me, and I was SOOO happy and excited to finally be able to greet them and have fun with them. I could barely comprehend what she was telling me.

So, at that point, we rushed through dancing with our parents (and my dad sang to me, too), cut our cake, and went outside for family pics with both sides of our family. Then DH and I had some additional pics taken. By the time we went back in, the reception had officially ended, 80 percent of our guests were gone, and the staff was clearing the tables. We had our last dance with just a scattered few family and friends watching.

I literally grieved for almost a year that I had waited my entire life for that moment (I was a first-time bride in my mid 40s!), planned every detail (except my timeline, because “that’s what the coordinator at the venue was supposed to take care of”), and it was OVER before I ever even had a chance to speak to my own mother or go table to table to greet my guests. I cried and cried and cried and CRIED about this during and after my honeymoon, to the point of making DH quite upset with me. I am just thankful that, while DH was dancing with his mother, I had determined that it was my ONLY chance to greet my boss and CEO and their spouses and the other guests from my office at their table. I figured that my friends and family would forgive me, but I really wanted to make certain that I acknowledged the executives from my job who were so kind to travel so far to attend my wedding. Also, on my way outside for the family pics, I managed to be able to greet two of my cousins whom I almost never see and who had flown in for my big day! I’m also eternally grateful to the people who came up to me at various points, because I at least had some minimal contact with those individuals. It truly was the biggest let down I could have ever, ever imagined. However, after three years, although it still makes me sad, and I really wish I could somehow go back and change something, I have managed to get over most of it.  And what’s wonderful is that everyone ELSE who attended my wedding had the most amazing time! Even today, someone who had been a guest at my wedding and I were talking, and she remarked that I had THE most beautiful, elegant and wonderful wedding she has ever attended in her entire life, and she is in her 50s, so she has been to a lot of weddings.  I am just so thankful my guests had such an amazing time, even if I don’t feel as if I even attended my own reception. 🙂

Post # 33
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can’t help it, the moment We slipped the rings on our fingers is something I will never forget. I can’t even remember who else was there!

The only lowlight is that I hit the dessert buffet too late and all the goodies I wanted to try were beyond gone 🙁

Post # 34
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Lowlight: Running late. I was late for our first look, and the transport was late dropping people off for the ceremony. We ended up doing an impromptu receiving line. Everything combined made us miss all of the cocktail hour due to additional photos.

Highlight: Said photos. We took bride/groom portraits at Fallingwater. There were (obviously) a lot of people on the grounds, including some high school/college students. At one point when we were posing in front of the house, they started slow clapping, erupting into spontaneous applause. It was AMAZING.

Post # 35
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The highlight was the moment right after our ceremony when our bridal party and immediate family walked out to take pictures, we had about two minutes alone with the closest people in our lives giving hugs, high fives and congrats to us.

The ONLY thing that went wrong was that our event coordinator couldnt find the holders that the ceremony flowers were supposed to go in so my amazing sister in law ended up making new ones. If I could go back, I would have made sure we knew where everything was before the day of so there were no panics like that.

Post # 36
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Highlight: doing a jagerbomb drop shot during the ceremony. This was a last minute decision. We had been joking about doing it for months, and how fun it would be. Then at 9:00 the night before the wedding, I called the officiant to see if it could be added to the ceremony. So glad we did it! It was so unique, we got a lot of comments (good and bad) from our guests.


Lowlight: I had a breakdown during our photos when I realized DH had not given out the corsages or boutinniers. He packed all the items for the ceremony since I stayed at the hotel with the girls the night before. I tried to grab them the night before. He stopped me saying that they were for the ceremony, so he would take care of them. I told him how important they were, and I’d rather do it to make sure it gets done. He insisted he could take care of it, then never did. I started crying, and had to take a moment in the middle of our photos and was so embarrassed.


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