Post # 1
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Busy bee
Hey Bees,
So the timeline talk has been had! And compromises have been made 🙂 While the being married part is still a few years ahead of time, I have said “I mean, I’m cool being engaged any time now….” (Queue gigantic hinting eyes at semi-oblivious boyfriend). And while this is all great in our little private world, these plans havent’t be broadcast to whole the family, obviously.
So my question to you is – what do you say during this waiting part, or even a long engagement situation!? With the holidays coming up I am sure the more distant relatives are going to be inappropriate with their noseyness and I need some advice on what to say to deflect this once and for all (without being too rude), and most of all prevent him from feeling pressured.
Post # 2
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Newbee
We got engaged on our 7th anniversary so I got a lot of these comments/questions over the years.
I was always just said it will happen eventually but right now we have other priorities.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I used to retort with “never” and watch the look on their faces LOL
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
futuredoctorbee: Since you know the wedding is still a few years off you could just use that. When someone asks simply say:
“We know we would like to get married in the future but not for the next few years, at least. We don’t see the point in getting engaged now when we wouldn’t be planning our wedding yet.”
Post # 5
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Helper bee
“tomorrow! You didn’t get the invitation?” 😉
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
“we were thinking about having a baby first- you know, so we could have a flower girl and make things super special!”- try to say this with a straight face and then burst out laughing 🙂
Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
” I dunno. Right now we’re just enjoying all the hot sex so we’re not in a rush.”
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I love all of these. You are all great at de-stressing me!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Since I deifnitely got this question a lot, and now (1 week after were engaged) I’m getting the “whens the date” question (why would I have a date 3 seconds after it happened??), I just give them this look ….
…Then they leave me alone. LOL
Post # 10
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Busy bee
imanibee: Congrats!! I always find it funny people ask the date so soon after, like the first thing a couple would do is jump online and look for openings at different venues lol<br /><br />
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
I totally feel you on this one. The first Thanksgiving that I was dating my SO (3 years ago, so like 6 months after we got together), my mom told my grandma that I “brought something home this time” and my grandma snatched my left hand looking for a ring! My mom meant my cat. LOL.
We are actually supposedly getting engaged with a ring before Christmas, so that makes it worse for me in a way! I don’t want to say “oh, who knows” when I actually kind of know (and risk some people temporarily thinking he’s not even thinking about it and then bug him), but of course I don’t want to hint at it.
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
Ugh i hate that question lol i just say “ask him..” the give him a wink
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
I think I’ve said it all…from “never” to “ask him” to “I have no idea” to “if he wanted to marry me, he would have asked by now” to “we’re not that serious (jokingly)” to “I hope soon!”
Im at a loss these days as to what to say. I’m at the point of being annoyed when people bring it up. I need a positive, witty comeback!
Post # 14
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Honey bee
futuredoctorbee: Darling Husband and I dated for almost 9 years before getting engaged, so we got this question often.
My favorite response was to throw out a random day. So if they asked “When’s the wedding?” or “When are you two getting married?” I’d say something like “Tuesday” or “Next Sunday.” It kept the mood light and usually deflected further questions.
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
LadyBear: what a good comeback! I might be using that one this holiday season lol
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