(Closed) The Holidays are coming…long vent…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I do not know how you can handle being around someone like that especially during the holidays! I know we have a a person in our family who thinks the expensive holiday presents and one phone call a year will make up for everything they have done. Unfortunately, you can not change the person. If you see them on the holidays, I would just try to remain cordial. It is hard not to snap at someone like this, but it will really just make you more unhappy and angry. I would try to enjoy the time with your husband and other family members and limit your interaction with your Mother-In-Law if possible. Have you talked to your husband about how angry she makes you? If he sees how unhappy it makes you to be around her, maybe you can spend your holiday else where?

Post # 5
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46613 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

One of the best tips I ever received in a course re dealing with difficult people was to picture yourself with a white veil covering yourself head to toe. Nothing can penetrate the veil. It seems appropriate here on the bee.

Frankly, it seems like there may be mental health issues going on here, so I suggest you just rise above. You can control your reactions. Do not let this woman push your buttons.

 

 

Post # 6
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@hrev2010: Well it is good that your husband understands too! You are definitely not the only one. It sounds like you have been doing a good job handling the situation, so hang in there! Anytime you feel like you are going to snap, just step back and take a breather! 🙂

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