Post # 1
Do you make a list of things to do for your household when Darling Husband has the day off?
Darling Husband is off 2 days during my work week. I have been making the Honey-do list more frequently and it’s such a relief to get things done… like cloning. Darling Husband seems to like it but I don’t put too many things on the list or pressure him if he doesn’t do it. He likes having goals and feels productive while I’m at work. If I don’t make a list, he does his own thing–but still productive in his own way. I guess I feel a little guilty b/c I had Election Day off and laid around the house slothlike, sleeping-eating-reading-repeating. Granted, I’m very pregnant right now, but hope this Honey Do list keeps up well beyond, into the golden years. He usually only verbally tells me one thing I should do when I’m home alone and he’s working–and I do it 50% of the time.
Do you and your Darling Husband do this? If so, what kinds of things do u put on ur list?
Post # 3
I make a list for my Darling Husband. Sometimes he does the things sometimes not. We are working on them. I know there are some chores you just don’t “like” to do and thats fine. But someone has to do them. I usually try to write the lists of things that we both need to get done and usually since he has more time he does them.
Post # 4
No lists at all, and we’ved lived together 5 years. I’m the crafty/mechanically inclined one so if something needs to be done, either I do it or we do it together.
Post # 5
I make a list for my Fiancé. This is a little tool that I have found to be VERY helpful. I think when I make the list it makes him feel useful and he really does show some great initiative to get the things on the list completed- It’s so cute (shhh… don’t tell him) 🙂
Post # 6
I’ve never made a list. Usually if there is something I want him to do, I just ask. But for the most part every time he is home alone he cleans– works for me 🙂
Post # 7
Our Honey-do list does not include usual cleaning chores.
Today his list is to Make Space in his closet (he said he would do this-so I’m reminding),
put together the swing (he’d be better at this than me) ,
work on a yard plan (I don’t want to do this)
and make a grocery shopping list (I usually do this but he was the one yesterday saying that we don’t have enough food in the house on his days off b/c we usually shop on the weekend).
@FallBride100111: I think it’s cute and very helpful, as well!
Post # 8
This is just me, but if my husband made an actual physical list of things he expected me to do, I’d punch him in the face. If he needs something done, he just asks. Same goes for me. If I need him to do something, I’ll just ask.
Post # 9
Actually I’m thinking a list may be useful. I usually have to ask for the same thing 5 times before it gets done, and then it becomes “nagging”.
Post # 10
I just ask and hubby is pretty good about it. Most of the things i ask for are all related to the reno of our house, which is his priority also when he’s home. so we’re usually on the same page about what needs to get done.
Post # 11
@pinky44: I’m with you. I’m a list person. I can function like that. If I gave my SO a list of things to do on his day off, he would probably throw it away. He’s productive on his own. I don’t ask him to do the things I do around the house on my day off though. If something needs done, I just ask him in the morning i.e. “Can you fix the sink? Can you unclog the tub? Can you call the phone company? Can you fix the door? ect. I never ask him to fold laundry or do dishes. ]
Now if SO handed me a list of things to do on my day off, I’d probably light it on fire.
Post # 12
i do this all the time and i love it (fi doesn’t love it so much). usually what happens is i make one list of things we both need to do, and if fi’s home alone one day i’ll make a sub-list of that with things just for him (he’s a little forgetful sometimes 🙂 ).
Post # 13
Our lives revolve around the list 🙂 Darling Husband works really well when there is a defined list of tasks while I can just think of things on the fly.
As to when he has the day off and I don’t, I honestly try not to give him any tasks in this situation. I think it’s important for everyone to have some time off every once in a while that is 100% thier time. And the especially annoying tasks I don’t want to make worse by asking him to do it on one of his few days off. In general, I will let him know what needs to be done and leave him be. He’ll decide when the best time is to accomplish everything.
Post # 14
My husband is so awesome that he always makes himself a list! He has a master one for projects he wants to get done over time, then each day he has his daily one. It’s too cute! 🙂
Post # 15
Oh heck no! That would go over like a lead balloon w/ Darling Husband. We are both aware of things that need to get done around the house & someone will do it, usually me.
Post # 16
No, I just tell him to clean up his dishes. He tells me to clean up mine. We don’t really have a reason to make lists – I’m fine taking care of home repair tasks and we’re both terrible with housework.