(Closed) The Honey-Do List

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Do you have a Honey Do List?
    Yes, DH does what I write on the list. : (16 votes)
    19 %
    Yes, we both write stuff for each other. : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Yes, we have a combined list that either of us need to do when we have time. : (15 votes)
    18 %
    No, no way... : (42 votes)
    50 %
    Other : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I make a list for my Darling Husband.  Sometimes he does the things sometimes not.  We are working on them.  I know there are some chores you just don’t “like” to do and thats fine.  But someone has to do them.  I usually try to write the lists of things that we both need to get done and usually since he has more time he does them. 

    Post # 4
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    2030 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    No lists at all, and we’ved lived together 5 years. I’m the crafty/mechanically inclined one so if something needs to be done, either I do it or we do it together.

    Post # 5
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    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I make a list for my Fiancé. This is a little tool that I have found to be VERY helpful. I think when I make the list it makes him feel useful and he really does show some great initiative to get the things on the list completed- It’s so cute (shhh… don’t tell him)  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 6
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’ve never made a list. Usually if there is something I want him to do, I just ask. But for the most part every time he is home alone he cleans– works for me ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
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    2025 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    This is just me, but if my husband made an actual physical list of things he expected me to do, I’d punch him in the face. If he needs something done, he just asks. Same goes for me. If I need him to do something, I’ll just ask. 

    Post # 9
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    3613 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Actually I’m thinking a list may be useful. I usually have to ask for the same thing 5 times before it gets done, and then it becomes “nagging”.

    Post # 10
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    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I just ask and hubby is pretty good about it. Most of the things i ask for are all related to the reno of our house, which is his priority also when he’s home.  so we’re usually on the same page about what needs to get done.

    Post # 11
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @pinky44: I’m with you. I’m a list person. I can function like that. If I gave my SO a list of things to do on his day off, he would probably throw it away. He’s productive on his own. I don’t ask him to do the things I do around the house on my day off though. If something needs done, I just ask him in the morning i.e. “Can you fix the sink? Can you unclog the tub? Can you call the phone company? Can you fix the door? ect. I never ask him to fold laundry or do dishes. ]

    Now if SO handed me a list of things to do on my day off, I’d probably light it on fire.

    Post # 12
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i do this all the time and i love it (fi doesn’t love it so much). usually what happens is i make one list of things we both need to do, and if fi’s home alone one day i’ll make a sub-list of that with things just for him (he’s a little forgetful sometimes ๐Ÿ™‚ ).

    Post # 13
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Our lives revolve around the list ๐Ÿ™‚ Darling Husband works really well when there is a defined list of tasks while I can just think of things on the fly.

    As to when he has the day off and I don’t, I honestly try not to give him any tasks in this situation. I think it’s important for everyone to have some time off every once in a while that is 100% thier time. And the especially annoying tasks I don’t want to make worse by asking him to do it on one of his few days off. In general, I will let him know what needs to be done and leave him be. He’ll decide when the best time is to accomplish everything.

    Post # 14
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    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My husband is so awesome that he always makes himself a list!  He has a master one for projects he wants to get done over time, then each day he has his daily one.  It’s too cute! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 15
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    1222 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Oh heck no! That would go over like a lead balloon w/ Darling Husband. We are both aware of things that need to get done around the house & someone will do it, usually me.

    Post # 16
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    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    No, I just tell him to clean up his dishes.  He tells me to clean up mine. We don’t really have a reason to make lists – I’m fine taking care of home repair tasks and we’re both terrible with housework.

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