(Closed) The Housewife

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What is your opinion of housewives?

    I'd love to be one, but the idea makes me feel guilty for not contributing to the household income.

    I respect women who choose to be one, but it isn't the right choice for me.

    I want to be one, but we can't afford to live on only his income.

    It is not for me, and I have a little ill-will towards those who choose that lifestyle.

    Other - I'll explain below!

    I already am a SAHW or plan to be one in the future

  • Post # 242
    1953 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’d love to be a Stay-At-Home Wife. We can afford to live comfortably if we both work, but not without my income.

    Post # 243
    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m intrigued by the implication that NOT having a colłege degree means it’s more acceptable to stay at home. Like, uneducated women should sit around in their underwear watching soaps, while educated women MUST work? Interesting.

    FWIW, I have a Master’s and see a huge value in being home. Preparing healthy food, creating a peaceful and functional home, giving small children personal attention or seeing to their education, and having the time it takes to make greener choices like composting, organic gardening, etc… these things are of value to the family, AND to society as a whole.

    I certainly don’t think putting in work at home instead of outside the home is useless.

    Post # 244
    4650 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would be one in a second, no hesitation and no guilt, if his salary was enough for us to get by on. But I’d rather have him and work than the other way around (have someone else and be a housewife) so it’ll just have to be a luxury I dream of.

    Post # 245
    4948 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    All financial aspects aside, I don’t think I could be a housewife… but I could definitely be a stay-at-home mom. 

    I do kind of wonder what housewives do all day, but that’s just sheer curiosity. 

    Post # 246
    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would be a Stay-At-Home Wife or Stay-At-Home Mom in a heartbeat if possible, but we need both incomes. I would probably do something part time, whether it be a part time job or volunteering with animals.  When I had off a few days after the honeymoon, I was loving the fact that I could keep our house in order, get errands done, and cook a great meal everyday….I honestly just love it. I don’t live to work, I work to live.

    As for Stay-At-Home Mom, that is honestly something I dream of doing for our future kids (God willing!). I saw my mother be both a Stay-At-Home Mom and a working mom…she was a Stay-At-Home Mom till I was 14 and once she went to back work, I really missed her being home. I doubt we will ever be able to have me be a full Stay-At-Home Mom, but I’m hoping to at least do that part time!  

    Post # 246
    1 posts

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    crayfish:  What makes you think you couldn’t contribute to society? I happen to be a house wife with no children. I can do anything without the confines of a work schedule. I volunteer, do art projects, write, read, spend time with my family and friends, and travel. Yes I keep my house clean, but doesn’t everyone? You just have to do it between work and obligations while I can do it at my leisure. I also have the comfort of knowing I have a husband that is capable and happy to provide for us financially. The assumption that not having a job means we contribute nothing to this world is actually insulting. AND what kind of job counts for contributing? Would my life be more noble to you if I flipped burgers for minimum wage? Or would I have to be like a pediatric cardiologist or a veterinarian to matter? All sarcasm aside, it’s my choice not to work and I love that I don’t HAVE to. What I don’t love is the assumptions and judgements people feel the need to make to quell their own jealousy. 

    Post # 247
    18 posts

    I completely respect the choice that others make, but I don’t plan to SAH when I have kids.  While I enjoy cooking sometimes, I don’t really enjoy things like keeping up the house, cleaning, etc.  I also have always been very independent and like having an identity outside of my husband and family.  Totally understand that Stay-At-Home Mom can have this too via volunteering etc., but it seems not as common in my community. 

    Hope that everyone can understand the right choice for them may not be right for someone else!  While I would not choose to SAH, I know it is very challenging and important and the right choice for others.  

    Post # 248
    1981 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m not one right now, but I will be a stay at home mom. My husband seems to think I would go stir-crazy if I were a Stay-At-Home Wife. I wouldn’t. I’d actually be able to get stuff done around the house if I were one.

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