(Closed) The Housewife

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What is your opinion of housewives?

    I'd love to be one, but the idea makes me feel guilty for not contributing to the household income.

    I respect women who choose to be one, but it isn't the right choice for me.

    I want to be one, but we can't afford to live on only his income.

    It is not for me, and I have a little ill-will towards those who choose that lifestyle.

    Other - I'll explain below!

    I already am a SAHW or plan to be one in the future

  • Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would love it for a short time…then I would crave intellectual conversations and stimulation.

    I’ve seen the housewives around here.  There’s lots of shopping and lots of competition.  It’s a bit vapid.  One of the wealthy, “Ladies who lunch” types around here has a blog (I think she feels it’s her “service” to the area…it promotes shopping locally) and the writing is horrible. If that’s the ideal in this area, I’ll stick to working.  Academia might not be perfect, but at least the people are generally smart!

    Post # 16
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @ddw: If I didn’t have a time consuming hobby I loved, then I could see being really bored.

    I can easily spend 4-5 hours a day at the barn on the weekends and want to spend MORE time there.

    So between that and taking on a volunteer cause, I probably wouldn’t be in the house much and most of the housework STILL wouldn’t get done!

    Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I have a bachelors of Science in Computer Science. I currently make a good amount of money.I want to be a housewife, and Fiance says I can once he makes a certain amount of money! (he is not too far from making that amount either)

    I would love to take care of the house, cook and bake (I love baking). I would love to have more time to exercize and do Yoga. I also wold like to have more time to spend with our horses.

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Hmmm… maybe I’m biased. I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom and loving it. I couldn’t wait to get out of the corporate rat race. It’s not for everyone! I haven’t turned into a mindless dolt yet after 3 years (that I’m aware of haha)

    My situation is different because my job is our child and home, but I could totally see the appeal in doing this CF.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    You don’t have a choice that says I am doing that already or planning to do that in the future.. You eliminated a huge group of ladies possibly.

     

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @CorgiTales: I feel the same way… no one wants my honest opinion on this, but I will give it ARE YOU KIDDING ME, what is the point of waking up in the morning? I dont care how much money I had I would feel like such a looser. Sorry I cant believe thats a question that people can even humor.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted that I’d love to be one, but I didn’t read “housewife” as meaning only doing cooking, cleaning and laundry.  If that were the case, I wouldn’t do it, and would actually have little respect for those who do, unless it was a mansion or estate with a huge yard.

    I think it is important to contribute meaningfully to society, and I think you can do that by volunteering or doing something useful or helpful that doesn’t necessarily generate income, or even by taking some classes or getting a hobby. 

    If, on the other hand, you have no children and are spending all day ironing your husband’s shirts and watching TV, I think you have more to give.  It couldn’t possibly be time-consuming enough just to clean and cook for two people… I think you’d be doing a fair amount of sitting on your ass 🙂  And that’s what I don’t respect.

    Post # 22
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    I voted other.  I am a stay at home wife and mom.  Yes I am home with my girls but I didn’t work for quite a while before my first daughter was born and we mutually have decided that I will not ever go back into the workforce.  I love it.  Do I feel guilty.  Nope, not a single bit.  My husband is one of those rare men that believe that it is the husband’s job to provide for his family.  We live a very comfortable life and are able to spend a lot of time together because there is not as much juggling of schedules to do.  When my girls get older I am looking forward to having more time to volunteer, garden, and relax.  I understand that I am opening myself up to criticism, but this is the life that both my husband and I love.  We have a marriage of mutual love and respect.  I have full access to OUR money, I drive a new car, and do not feel unliberated or marginalized in any way.  I feel like the most blessed woman on earth.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it would make me kinda sad, because for me to be a Stay-At-Home Wife would mean that I didn’t have a job that I loved enough to continue working. And that makes me sad–not to have found my passion in life.

    I also don’t know what I would do all day. There are only so many hours that you can spend cooking and cleaning, you know? DH knows a lot of SAHW/SAHMs (basically all of his co-workers wives don’t work) and a lot of them get into volunteer work/philanthropy, which I guess is rewarding/fulfilling.

    I would also have major guilt about not contributing to the household income, even though we could live on DH”s salary alone. I would feel like a mooch.

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have a TON of respect for housewives.  BUT, my mom was one (she stopped working after she got married, and had children 4 years later) and because of that, I will never do it.

    My reasons (for not wanting to be a housewife/SAHM when potential children are old enough to go to school):

    1.  The criticism my mom got ALL THE TIME by her Mother-in-Law, friends, strangers, etc.

    2. My mom put all of herself into her children, now we are grown (18 year old sister away at college and me- about to get married at 21).  She relies on family members who live down the street from us for companionship(our country road was named after our family….My grandparents live across the street from their 3 adult children who live in houses side-by-side…crazy, I know).  She isolated herself from peers and feels no need to have many friends aside from family members.

    3. I love my career– teaching.  PERSONALLY, I need to be in a classroom somewhere with children and fellow teachers to feel like I am successful in my professional life.

    That’s just based off my experiences and my passion for my work.  Everyone is different and I have seen some of the happiest people who are housewives.

    Post # 25
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I would LOVE to be a housewife. I dread going to work every day. I plan to be a Stay-At-Home Mom once we have babies but for now I would feel guilty just staying at home being a (future) housewife,

    Post # 27
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Is there really such a thing as stay-at-home?  Do you actually think they sit home and do not leave?  Even if that is the case, many people contribute in their own way.

    I am just saying, I know lots of women who do not work and they all have -education, -goals, -contribute to society.

    Just because you don’t have a job doesn’t mean you are not all of those things are more.

     

    Post # 28
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If that is what you are into people should go for it and I respect women who choose to stay at home. I always was a bit of a “career girl” and my income if about double my husbands so it wouldnt make sense for me to stay at home. We discussed that when we have kids we will take the parental leave… he has more of a parental instinct than me.

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @MrsFuzzyFace: I can understand while having children, but before childern and after? Im really sorry but dont you feel usless? Like you not contributing anything to society or the world. Most people feel as though they were put here to do things, help people, help the world. Do u feel like you were put here to sit on your ass?

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