(Closed) The Housewife

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What is your opinion of housewives?

    I'd love to be one, but the idea makes me feel guilty for not contributing to the household income.

    I respect women who choose to be one, but it isn't the right choice for me.

    I want to be one, but we can't afford to live on only his income.

    It is not for me, and I have a little ill-will towards those who choose that lifestyle.

    Other - I'll explain below!

    I already am a SAHW or plan to be one in the future

  • Post # 28
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    Helper bee

    I’d like to stay home with my kids until they’re all in school full time.  However, since I only want 2, I’m planning on going back to work after the first one and staying home (or working from home, if possible) after the second one.  I don’t think I’d mind being a full time Stay-At-Home Mom one day.  My mother was a Stay-At-Home Mom and she is seriously super mom!  I’d love to be like her, but I am also very proud of my education and what I want to do with my life.  I have career goals, and maybe after I achieve my career goals, I would consider being a full time Stay-At-Home Mom.  There’s also the money issue to consider: even if my SO was making six figures a year, having more money is always better, IMO, and I like to feel I’m contributing.

    Oh, and I also plan to have somebody come clean our house, whether I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom or not.  I HATE CLEANING!!!  🙂

    Post # 29
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    550 posts
    Busy bee

    I currently am one and I love it. I work about 6 hours a week total in the evenings and actually make a really high hourly, but I am home during the day. We just bought a house so it is very time consuming with renovations and stuff. I love to cook and I take pride in giving my husband and puppy a nice home. I also have a BA from a top 15 university, I don’t feel it was a waste. I worked for a while but it was a joint decision that when we moved out here it wasn’t worth the commute for my salary.  I love it, but it is not for everyone

    Post # 30
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    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    IF money wasn’t an issue, I’d do it in heartbeat.  But, I couldn’t imagine not contributing to our household income.  

    A friend of mine, with a college degree, has been a housewife for a decade plus and loves it.  The only time it BUGS me is when she complains how busy she is and how she doesn’t have time to do things (in comparison when I was working full-time and doing a bunch of volunteering).  Wait – I lied – it also bugs me when she’s miserly about money.  I GET that you are living on one-income, but that’s your choice.  Don’t be a cheapskate because of it!

    Post # 30
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    9816 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Hey, Julia Child created an empire as a result of being a bored housewife!

    Post # 31
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    7769 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Making money by working isn’t the only way to contribute to society. 

    Post # 32
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    50 posts
    Worker bee

    I have a degree and I would love to be a housewife. I love to cook, clean, organize, decorate, do gardening, to run a house. I have an office job and most of the time I dislike the environment; I don’t even get a sense of accomplishment for doing my job well. It is just a paycheck to me and if I didn’t need it, I would be perfectly happy and busy with household chores instead.

    Post # 33
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    3563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

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    @Jenbee: It seems a bit combatative to say that she’s sitting on her ass. With children at home (since she said she has girls), I’m pretty sure that’s not the case! 🙂

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I would love to be a stay at home mom, but never a stay at home wife.  I want to use that degree and push my earning potential for as long as I can until I’m home with the kids. lol

    My husband is unemployed right now, so I tease him and call him my House Hubs. lol

    Post # 35
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    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We just moved to a new city so I get to “play” Stay-At-Home Wife for a bit here while we get settled and I look for a new job… and I have to confess I’m totally loving it! Our house is spotless, my dogs are tired and happy, I’m getting all sorts of extra excercise, I LOVE cooking and I’ve been doing lots of that, I’ve refinished some of our furniture, I’m getting my garden/yard ready for summer and have things so organized that when Fiance gets home we go out and actually do stuff rather than just being exhausted and having to cook right away. I think I’m just enjoying having the extra time actually enjoy doing some of these domestic things rather than feeling like they’re a chore that has to get done during my far too short weekend. We both notice the difference it makes in the quality of our life right now since I’ve been at home – I don’t know if I could sustain this, but I’m definitely enjoying it for the moment!

    ETA: The implication that a Stay-At-Home Wife or Stay-At-Home Mom doesn’t do anything and must be bored is just plain dumb. There is LOTS to do, especially when there are children in the house – I have yet to feel bored, I’m just doing different tasks than I would be in an office from 9-5.

    Post # 36
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    7769 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Many famous artists, writers, creatives and musicians throughout history have been “unemployed” and poor.  The world would be a different place without them.

    People that don’t work might actually be contributing in ways you haven’t thought of.

    Also, education is worthwhile for everyone. 

    Post # 36
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    Honey bee

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    @Jenbee: Im offended and Im not even a housewife. I work long hours and the work I am doing is really not contributing to society at all. If I was a housewife I could volunteer and help the causes that are close to my heart. I do what I can now, but its difficult to find the time after working 50+ hours a week.

    Post # 36
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

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    @Jenbee:  No, I don’t feel useless.  I spend a lot of my time volunteering helping people in real and tangable ways.  I would venture to say that I have the most wonderful life in the world.  I have a husband that adores me, two girls that have always and will always know that their mommy makes them her priority, and the time and money to help others.  I can’t get that sitting behind a desk.  I feel like I have won the life lottery and extremely blessed.

    Post # 37
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

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    @cbee:Branching off of your statement…No I don’t think a woman needs to work for money, BUT…

    Whether someone is a woman or a man-if they did nothing all day except watch TV and shop their whole lives, yes I would feel that that was a sad way to live.

    So I respect someone who values their time in life enough to do productive and worthwhile things- whether that is taking care of children, volunteering, practicing hobbies, reading, learning, etc…then thats great!

    Don’t get me wrong, I’m a TV addict, a wedding bee addict and I love to shop and lounge…but if those were the ONLY things I did…that would be sad.

    Also I am like some others here who really enjoy cooking and cleaning. I love housewife activities…I just also want a career as well, but I’d enjoy being a housewife too.

    Just my personal opinion.

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @hilsy85: no no, thats why I said “with children” but before and after? I just think its such a waste. Its kinda sad.

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @hilsy85: no no, thats why I said “with children” but before and after? I just think its such a waste. Its kinda sad.

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