(Closed) The Housewife

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What is your opinion of housewives?

    I'd love to be one, but the idea makes me feel guilty for not contributing to the household income.

    I respect women who choose to be one, but it isn't the right choice for me.

    I want to be one, but we can't afford to live on only his income.

    It is not for me, and I have a little ill-will towards those who choose that lifestyle.

    Other - I'll explain below!

    I already am a SAHW or plan to be one in the future

  • Post # 39
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

      sorry double post

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @hilsy85: I did say before and after children. I think its such a waste, and kinda sad that you think thats all you should do. Being a mom is a full time job, but before you have kids… and after they are grown, before retirement. Thats just kinda upsetting.

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @hilsy85: I did say before and after children. I think its such a waste, and kinda sad that you think thats all you should do. Being a mom is a full time job, but before you have kids… and after they are grown, before retirement. Thats just kinda upsetting.

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @hilsy85: I did say before and after children. I think its such a waste, and kinda sad that you think thats all you should do. Being a mom is a full time job, but before you have kids… and after they are grown, before retirement. Thats just kinda upsetting.

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @KatyElle: Now that’s a housewife I would want to emulate ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 42
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Honestly, I think I would love it, for a while at least. But, the beauty of my work is I can do it as much or as little as I want. I prefer to work my ass of now, so that the hubs and I can retire early at 40, and then live our lives freely together. I much prefer to spend my free time with him then do it now while he still would have to work

    Post # 42
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I read the poll wrong. I voted that we couldnt afford for me to be one. I would not want to be a housewife with no children. I just feel like Id be really bored all day long. If all my other friends did it too then it would be fun but since Id be hanging out by myself all day I would get super bored. It doesnt take me that long to clean the house, do the dishes, do the laundry so I imagine I would just watch a lot of useless TV and spend way too much time on the internet (which I already do). I do want to be a stay at home mom while my kids are too young for school though!

    Post # 43
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I would go stir-crazy. I was unemployed for 4 months after I finished grad school (first month by choice, not so much by choice after that) and trying to find things to do every day so I wasn’t bored out of my skull was almost more exhausting than going to work.

    I think I will always need to have a job, even if it’s eventually only part-time. I like knowing that I’m making money as the minutes tick by, and I like looking forward to going home as opposed to thinking up reasons/ways to get out of the house.

    That said, everyone’s different. As long as they’re happy, I have no problem with women choosing not to work; that lifestyle’s just not for me.

    Post # 44
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I’ve been a Stay-At-Home Wife since about 6 months before our wedding. My job was awful and making me physically ill, so we decided it would be best if I just quit. Then we wanted to get pregnant soon after the wedding, and due to health issues thought it would be best for me not to work so I just never looked for another job. I’m very glad we made that decision, b/c I had a pretty awful 1st trimester due to migraines and still would not be comfortable working. I have my masters degree, and I plan to use it sometime in the future when the kids are a little older.

    I don’t love it, but my situation is different. Pretty much everything I do gives me migraines so I just have to sit here and do nothing. It’s boring! I wish I could do some cleaning, and I always look forward to cooking dinner. In a few months the baby will come and life won’t be so boring anymore though.

    Post # 45
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @Evie19: word. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 46
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I could not be a Stay-At-Home Wife…I would go crazy, and gain 50lbs. I have a friend that is one, and it’s because she ‘doesn’t like working…’ and her husband makes a lot of money. 

    I just can’t relate to her, because every time I call her, she’s getting her nails done, grocery shopping, or baking. EVERY day she does this. 

    Maybe I’m a little jealous, but I know that if I were in the same situation I would be super nuts. 

    Post # 47
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

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    @cbee: great minds think alike ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 48
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Before I got remarried, I used to tell people that I needed a WIFE instead of a husband. Although I love to cook (because i love to eat!), I HATE HATE HATE housecleaning. I am also not particularly fond of children either. So I would make for a poor excuse of a housewife!

    Post # 49
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

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    @Jenbee: I don’t want to speak for
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    @MrsFuzzyFace: , but IMO, it seems like you’re more thinking of housewives who are “forced” into the role–maybe they have husbands who are really traditional, or maybe they never got an education to be able to go into the work force. but I don’t think that’s true for all women who stay home. Many women choose to do it. That’s the wonderful thing about feminism/women’s lib–we have CHOICES! Woo hoo! ๐Ÿ™‚ I think it’s only a waste if the woman feels that it’s a waste–if she’s happy, who are we to judge her?

    Post # 50
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @Jenbee: Kind of a waste of energy to this worked up over how someone else chooses to live their life, no? How about you let her decide if she finds her own life to be a “sad” “upsetting” “waste” so that you can get back to your job. ๐Ÿ™‚

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