(Closed) The Housewife

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What is your opinion of housewives?

    I'd love to be one, but the idea makes me feel guilty for not contributing to the household income.

    I respect women who choose to be one, but it isn't the right choice for me.

    I want to be one, but we can't afford to live on only his income.

    It is not for me, and I have a little ill-will towards those who choose that lifestyle.

    Other - I'll explain below!

    I already am a SAHW or plan to be one in the future

  • Post # 51
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

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    @Jenbee:  I am not sure why you would find that upsetting.  When my girls are older I will be very happy to do all sorts of things rather than work a job.  I don’t need the money and I don’t prefer to spend my life working for money I don’t need when I could be teaching children to read, helping coordinate fundraisers for charity, working with people in need, and loving my life.  I am not seeing the downside here.  Life is about as good as it can possibly get.

    Post # 52
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It would be great to have enough $ to be able to pursue life goals freely, but obviously it would be sad if someone had none.

    Post # 53
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Personally, I have nothing against housewives, but I don’t think I could ever become one, even when I have kids. I really like not having to depend on anyone else for money and like contributing to the household financially. I also enjoy having the opportunity to put my masters degree to use at my job. My mom was a Stay-At-Home Mom, so I have tremendous respect for those who choose to stay at home…it is a lot of work to run a household and raise children, and it’s a 24 hour a day job, not 9-5.

    Post # 54
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @Evie19: 🙂

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I am a “housewife” (not wife, or not even officially Fiance yet) but I’ve been for several years (since we met) 

    The housekeeping/cooking comes easy, I could do it with my eyes closed, but it’s a lot of spare time which is rather boring. 

    Planning my wedding has been great, because it’s given me something to do.  Also if things stay this way I’d have to find something to do. 

    I’d love to work, but it’s been hard to find a position and with FI’s job hours we may never see each other. 

    Post # 56
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Not a chance. I hate cooking I hate cleaning I hate ironing, why would I want to stay at home to do all that and not get paid? I need to get out of the house and enjoy interations with those who are not in my family. This would mean I need a job. I need self fulfillment and staying at home cleaning isn’t going to give me that.

    I live in 2011 and to me that means women have come a long way in becoming equals as people which means like men you go out and earn your keep, finacially.

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @cbee: I’m really digging your intermittent statements. Lol.

    Post # 58
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @vmec: Actually, in 2011 we are equals because we can CHOOSE want we WANT to do, rather than just doing what is considered to be socially acceptable. The basis of feminism is not that we start living like men, in fact, that’s probably another antithesis of feminism.

    Post # 59
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @Miss Lilac: IMO, but I disagree. But I also live in a metro city, and I believe here more than other places you’ve got to earn your keep. And that to me means financially (amoung other ways but including financially).

    Post # 60
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

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    @Miss Lilac: LIKE! 🙂

    Post # 61
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @Miss Lilac:  Thanks!  I know, I am just randomly piping in every couple of minutes 🙂

    Post # 62
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

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    @vmec: Curious as to what you would think of stay-at-home dad’s? Since you said “which means like men you go out and earn your keep”. I totally disagree. Women have come this far so that they can choose if they want to work or stay home.

    I could never be a housewife. I’d go crazy after about a week or two. I need to be around people and keep busy. Plus, I wouldn’t want my husband’s income to support both of us while I get to relax, do things that I want to do, etc. My opinion, but I don’t think it is fair. But I have no problem with those who do it, it just isn’t for me! 

    Post # 63
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @Miss Lilac: AMEN. When did being feminist mean not having respect for women who map out their own life?

    Post # 64
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

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    @Miss Lilac: Yes, I’m echoing another LIKE to what you said. Exactly.

    Post # 65
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    Buzzing bee

    I’m not a housewife, but to be honest some of these comments are annoying me.

    What about the people who hate their job but can’t find one they truely love because of the job market/economy?! Are those people ‘sad’ and ‘waste’ful because they have the opportunity to do whatever the hell they want to at home? I’m pretty sure they think their lives are pretty ‘sad’ and ‘waste’ful sitting at a job they hate.

    I hate how judgy mcjudgerson everyone is being over this.

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