(Closed) The Housewife

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What is your opinion of housewives?

    I'd love to be one, but the idea makes me feel guilty for not contributing to the household income.

    I respect women who choose to be one, but it isn't the right choice for me.

    I want to be one, but we can't afford to live on only his income.

    It is not for me, and I have a little ill-will towards those who choose that lifestyle.

    Other - I'll explain below!

    I already am a SAHW or plan to be one in the future

  • Post # 80
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would love not to have to work the typical 9-5, 40 hours weeks.  I think I would get bored staying home all the time though.  My ideal situation is for both my Fiance and I to work 20 hour work weeks, so I have something going on outside the home to feel proud of, and have free time to do all the other things we want to do to.  

    Post # 81
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    ETA:  Whoops.  Random post.

    Post # 82
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Miss Lilac: I agree with everything you have been saying.

    That is all.

    Post # 83
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I cannot be a stay at home mom.. I just cant do it. At the very least I would want to have a part time job atleast a couple of days a week. I would mind staying home a few days a week but not every day continously…

    Post # 84
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My mom worked a 9-5 job until my sister was born (after me), and then she was technically a stay at home mom.  But she volunteers and helps people way more than I think I do working behind a desk crunching numbers and earning money.  Now that all of us kids are grown and out of the house, she runs a food bank, helps needy children and women, and now gets to enjoy some more free time to go to our house in Vermont and ski, hike, etc.  I respect my mother more than almost any other woman I know, and I do not think it is “upsetting” that she didn’t go back to work when we were grown.  Sure, she could go back to work, but she is happy helping others, as she did while I grew up.  She also now has had to take care of her parents, including my grandmother who is very ill. 

    But back to the original question, I would love to be able to have the choice of being a stay at home mom when we have children, but sadly because of where we live, anything less than a two income household seems impossibly out of reach financially.

    Post # 85
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @vmec: Sigh. Please don’t say that you are not a feminist. That is probably even more infuriating. Why do people always think feminists have hairy armpits, hate men and wear Birkenstocks exclusively?

    Do you believe in the right to vote? Equal access to healthcare? Equal pay? The right to own your own property? The freedom to choose your own career? Yes? Surprise! You’re a feminist.

     

    Post # 86
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I could only do that if I was doing a ton of charity work (as in founding and running stuff, not just helping out once a week). I agree with PPs that if I just sat around the house I would lose a lot of self-respect.

    Post # 87
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    @vmec:  Apologies.

    I think I (and several other posters) misconstrued this statement.

    I live in 2011 and to me that means women have come a long way in becoming equals as people which means like men you go out and earn your keep, finacially.

    Hence the comments in re: feminism.

     

    Post # 88
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’ve been a housewife pretty much our entire marriage. I had a full time job for a month and it just didn’t work for us. I like being alone, cleaning, and cooking so it really doesn’t bother me. Sometimes it gets lonely, but I get over it. I love having time to do everything I never had time to do before!

    Post # 89
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I plan on being a Stay-At-Home Mom (for a while), but would never be a Stay-At-Home Wife. I would probably just watch bad TV all day and gain weight from being bored. I would like to think I would volunteer and everything, but I still doubt that would fill up all my time. Honestly, my first choice would be to just work part-time. Perhaps even after kids. That way I would be contributing to the household income but also have more time for things I enjoy, like gardening and running. 

     

    Post # 90
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wouldn’t do it even if money was not a problem.  -I- would feel useless, I know that.  If I was an artist or something else on the side that generated income it would be a consideration.

    I could never live off of someone else’s income, sorry.  It would make me feel powerless and I would be resentful of having an ‘allowance’.  What if something goes wrong?  You are penniless and you are living off someone else’s dime.  It gives them power.  I want to be self-sufficient up to the very end so I know I can stand on my own two feet if need be.

    That’s just me.

    Post # 91
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @hilsy85: Yes, not only should both be contributing financially I also think working is healthy to maintain a sort of independance, level of confidence and that sort of thing.

    Post # 92
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    I am not sure why everyone seems to thing housewives are at home.  This is a rare down day for us.  In a little while I have to get ready to take the girls to the sitter because tonight is date night for us.  I believe that each person’s life is their own to do with what they please.  If someone chooses to spend their days sitting in a tree, as long as taxpayers are not having to support them, what business is it of mine to determine if they are wasting their life.

    Post # 93
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I can no longer participate in this post. Every time I read a comment it pisses me off. If all you do is cook and clean then what the hell is your purpouse in life? really you do NOTHING else and you are content? I could never even respect someone like that. ok so you married into money but too me your just as bad as those people sitting on there asses collecting unemployment. Gross- be a important part of society or dont have an imput at all.

    Post # 94
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    I’m a stay at home wife (technically) with a college degree- I’ve worked 60 hours a week and now this. I didn’t think I would know what to do with myself- but I am always busy. Cooking, cleaning, errands, getting ready to start an incredibly intense academic program in September, and shooting weddings on the side. I want to go back to work because I like not relying on my husband (what if he dies?), but we both agree our quality of life is pretty amazing when one of us doesn’t work and can take care of “other stuff.”

    Edit:

    He’s also gone through a period where he didn’t really work while preparing for an intense program. We’re equal opportunity in this household 🙂

    I also don’t think it’s worth putting down people who don’t share your view. There’s no reason to make anyone else feel bad about how they live their life.

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