(Closed) The "I love you" Challenge

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

@misswhereami:  I already make a point of doing this, and I do it when he comes home too. Little things like this go a long way. I do this with my child too. Every moment is a gift and I dont want either of the people I love the most when they are away to ever wonder or not know that I loved them most. If anything were to happen I would know that they knew they were loved and that is very important to me. We so easily get swept away with the madness in the world around us that we forget what truly is the most precious in the scheme of things. Its ok to go to sleep angry, or leave the home frustrated it however is not ok in my opinion to not let them know how loved they are. Even when I’m stark raving mad with my daughter I tell her that I may not have been happy with you this morning but I love you more than you’ll ever know and I want you to have a better day than it started, then I hug her and kiss her forehead. I hug and kiss my hubs before he leaves too telling him That I love him and I hope he has a great day.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am so sorry for him. That is terrible.

 

My Fiance and I are huge fans of Giant Bomb. It’s a gaming website. We watch most of their stuff and listen to their podcast every week. It’s like just listening to a group of your friends shooing the shit about what you’d talk about anyway. Last week, Ryan Davis, the head of it died in his sleep. It was brutal, like losing a buddy you didn’t know you had. 

 

What made it worse was it was on his honeymoon. After 10 years with his partner, he married her last week and died on the honeymoon. I keep wanting to cry for this complete stranger and I have told my Fiance I love him more this week than I usually do, because they’re US. Huge nerds, the same personality, they’ve been together and waited to begin their lives together for SO LONG and to lose everything after being married for less than a week? It shouldn’t be allowed for people to die then. A month after the wedding, when the highs go away? Perhaps. Right after you commit to each other for the rest of your lives? I don’t know if I could ever pick up the pieces.

 

So while I have thankfully never been there, I’m feeling for your friend. I hope he finds a way to pick up his life and move on someday. I know if I was in his shoes though, I’d just be beyond shattered.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My mom was this way. She had a friend die suddenly, so she wanted to make sure the last thing she said to is was ‘I love you’, and if we said it first ‘I love you more’. Dad, on the other hand, is the typical stoic guy and has told me he loves me maybe twice??? in the last 10 years or so. I’ve never really thought about it because that’s just the way he is.

 

In

 the beginning of our relationship I said it a lot, but fell out of the habit.  Fi rarely says it and I got tired of being the only one. But I may have to start again, see if it has any effect.

Post # 35
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@misswhereami:  I alreay do this, except when I am mad. It is very hard to remember that tomorrow we may not be here, and if that happened I would feel terriuble for not saying it. Thanks for the reminder. I am sorry to hear about your friends. Thoughts and prayers to you <3

Post # 37
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Busy bee

We say I Love You a LOT in my house – not just to each other but to our kids, family members and even friends also.  DH and I have both experienced losing a child (his daughter at age 2 in 2009, my son at age 13 in 2011) and we know firsthand how the last time you see someone could literally be the LAST time.  Take NOTHING for granted.

 

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m already in I suppose.

Fiance and I say it allll the time.  Everytime one of us leaves the house and everytime we get off the phone.  As well as other random times.  He actually says it fairly frequently to his brothers and father everytime they get off the phone.

My family isn’t as big on it.

I will say it all the time to my kids!

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We say I love you or Love you allll the time. When we go to bed, when we leave in the morning, randomly throughout the day. Maybe we don’t say it every time we leave, but I’d say 90% of the time we do. Maybe I’ll try to bump that up to 100%. I think it’s important and a really good challenge!

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am sorry for your loss. We do this every single day. It’s a great thing to do!

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Been on board! SO and I say it no matter what everymorning, and all through the day.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We do this already. We tell each other we love each other and kiss whenever we part or return and before and after waking up. And often in between, too! 

It’s a routine that I have very purposefully established, as FI’s family was never as affectionate as mine. It doesn’t come as naturally to him. Well, now it does! 😉

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I agree that this is so important to remember everyday. Life is too short and nothing is guaranteed. Se need to make the most of every moment.

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I feel like little things like that are not only important “just in case,” but they help keep relationships healthy too. 

We make an effort to kiss goodbye every morning before work, and wish each other a good day. I don’t think we always say I love you, but we always say something nice. When he’s gone, we talk at least once a day, at the very minimum to say goodnight and I love you. 

Sometimes, I’ll just text him randomly during the day to remind him how awesome I think he is. He does the same. 

If we have an argument, or get upset, we still hug and say I love you before either of us leaves or go to bed. Because it’s still true even in the middle of a bunch of frustrations. 

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think you’re making a good call by spreading out the card and the visit. It’s a delicate balance between giving him space to grieve and reminding him that you’re thinking of him and there for support. 

I am 100% ON BOARD with this challenge. 

Post # 45
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

@misswhereami:  YES!  This is true.  One thing I’ve always tried to do in my relationship with Fiance is never go to bed mad at one another and say “I love you” as much as possible.  I lost my father unexpectedly, and I constantly think about how thankful I am that he called me to chat the day before we lost him and our last “goodbye” was a happy one…although I had no idea it would be our last :/ 

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

its second nature to me now. i tell my fiance “i love you” every time we are apart, even when i run to the grocery store or to throw away the garbage. it’s very vital that our last words are heartfelt before we depart from one another. You just don’t know what life throws at you.  

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