(Closed) The Idiot Men We Love :-)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I’m totally not siding with your hubby, but I don’t really think that he did anything that terrible!  I can see why it would bother you, but perhaps you should just be open to talking about it instead of saying “Talk to your boss about what?  Everyone except you has gotten off the days in June.  I will go with or without you.  And God help you if I go without you.”

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Love the conversation! He’s clueless about why he can’t change the date of vacation, and you don’t understand why he wants to go to a co-worker’s wedding. He’s a people pleaser, wants to compromise so no one gets hurt! In his mind, it’s quite simple…

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I really can see both sides.  I can completely see why you’re pissed, I would be, too.  He should know without asking you what the answer should be.  But, maybe he has a reason he wants to attend the wedding or maybe that guy sort of guilted him into asking you.  Whichever thing it was, it got a little blown out of proportion.  I know if I had texted back something like, “I will go with or without you,” my Fiance would be furious.  I wouldn’t even go there.  At the point he’d said you could talk about it later, I would have said, “Ok, honey, later.”  Obviously you shouldn’t change your vacation plans for his co-worker’s wedding.  But you still need to find out your DH’s reason for even thinking you should.  Maybe he has a good explanation.  Or maybe he was just being a dumb guy, lol.  They do that.  We love them anyway.

ETA:  Just read your next post.  The trouble with texting is they can’t hear you laughing.  It sounded harsh in just reading it, maybe he took it that way.  Or, maybe he just got busy at work and can’t text back yet.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@Sunfire:  I agree!  I’m def on OP’s side and don’t think you should change your vacation, but the thing is (and I’m still learning to fine tune what I’m about to say….) sometimes I think you need to handle guys very delicately.  Generally, guys have delicate egos (I’m obviously generalizing here, not trying to be sexist) and you don’t want to shoot them down and make them feel like they have stupid ideas.  Then they’ll get embarrassed and defensive, and that’s not going to turn out great.  You can entertain your hubby’s idea, and act like you’re considering it, but then sweetly show him how YOUR idea is much better!  Hell, maybe he’ll even come to the conclusion on his own – even better b/c he will think it was HIS idea!  

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mshoagie:  I get what you’re saying.  Since he knows you so well he probably took it in the way you meant it, which was humorous.  I’m sorry if it sounded like I was implying you were being bitchy, I didn’t mean to at all.  And I would be thinking the same thing, “Are you kidding me?  Re-arrange our once-a-year vacation for that?  No way in hell!!”  Texting is weird, sometimes it sounds different than you mean it to.  Just like emailing and posting on a board like this, lol.  I’m still pondering what my Fiance has done lately to make me slap my forehead . . . he’s pretty perfect, though, but we’re in the lovey-dovey-just-got-engaged-stage.  Give me a few more months.  Smile

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AshleyR83:  LOL, yep, very smart idea!! 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t get why you can’t discuss the option. I’d be kinda pissed (or silent) if I got shut down without so much as a discussion.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

@mshoagie:  I thought that was a kinda cute/silly conversation between you and Darling Husband. From the way you talk about it I can tell you were more rolling-your-eyes than royally-pissed.

So I’ll bite, and share my Idiot Man story πŸ™‚

SO and I were making a run to the Redbox at ShopRite 5 minutes before it closes. I had to pee like a racehorse, so I pushed him toward the Redbox and shouted, “Pick whatever movie you want!” as I ran to the bathroom. This is the conversation when I get back:

me: So what did you pick?

SO: The Adjustment Bureau.

me: No really. What did you get?

SO: The Adjustment Bureau!

me: You’re…joking. What did you really get??

SO: I really got The Adjustment Bureau!

At this point he holds out the DVD so I can see, and I just stare at him in shock.

me: Um, honey… The Adjustment Bureau? Remember when we saw that last week at your friend’s house? And you couldn’t stop talking about how much you love Matt Damon?

He hung his head in shame, and put the DVD right back in the Redbox, while saying it was the worst dollar he’d ever spent!!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mshoagie:  Me too!  But, still, he’s a GUY.  And they are definitely different from us in the way they think about things sometimes.  I’ll be curious to know how your conversation goes tonight, and what his explanation is for even suggesting such a thing, lol . . .  you have to let us know later, ok?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

sample convo for us:

me – “what do you think about hanging the ledges over there?”

him – ::silience:: “what do i think about hanging the ledges there…” (repeating my question to himself)

him – ::silence::

him – ::silence::

me – “hellloooooo”

him – “that is a good idea.”

seriously takes him like 3 minutes to comprehend what I am saying sometimes.

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