(Closed) The inevitable question: “What kind of stone is that?”

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I don’t think it was rude. It seems you were reading something into his question that probably wasn’t there.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with PP, I don’t think he meant any harm, it sounds like just pure curiosity.

I’d imagine you would get that questions quite a few times with a diamond sim.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I dont think it was rude at all. He is a jeweler and probably could tell it wasnt a diamond so he wanted to know what it was. 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think he meant any harm. He probably knew it wasn’t a diamond or a cz and was curious. As long as he wasn’t loud and drawing attention to himself and you guys, I don’t really see the issue. You said he was super helpful so I think this is one of those times when you should give a person the benefit of the doubt.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I agree with the other posters.. As a jeweler he has a natural interest and possibly even a good reason to ask. I think you’re reading a judgemental-ness into the question that wasn’t intended. And if your husband had been trying to pass it off to you as a diamond when it wasn’t.. well that’s his mistake and he deserves to get found out!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I also don’t think that it is a rude question – he is a jeweller, could obviously tell it wasn’t a diamond, and was curious as to what type of stone it was. I think that you are reading more into the question than you should be. I think you need to take a deep breath, calm down, and think about it rationally.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Sorry, I really don’t think that it’s rude. Obviously whether it’s rude or not is highly subjective. You personally wouldn’t ask someone that, so yes from your perspective it’s highly offensive.

I wouldn’t be offended at all. It’s not a diamond, as the jeweler could tell, so what’s the harm in his curiosity?

He probably just thought it was a pretty stone he wasn’t familiar with. Unless there was tone in his voice that I wasn’t there to hear.

I find it along the same lines of asking any girl about any jewelry she’s wearing. I see a girl wearing an unusual necklace and I think it’s pretty, so I ask her. I’ve even asked a few people I know casually, very very politely, if they knew what colour their stones were. It’s just conversation about the pretties.

And also, as you said yourself, he is a jeweler. He is in the business of gemstones. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@agirlwithdreams7: I’m sorry this upset you. Did you actually tell him what it was? From the way I read your post, it sounds to me like he might have said it out of curiosity ? Was he snooty about it? I mean, you’re right- it’s really none of his business, you were there to buy a wedding band, not discuss your ering, but he IS a jeweler. From what I’ve read about moissanite, many jewelers enjoy working with it & are quite intrigued by it…

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with the previous posters that I don’t think it was rude.  More like professional curiosity.  I think you’re reading way more into this than is actually there which may be somewhat revealing about your own feelings about “other stones”.  Also he might have been asking to make sure he wouldn’t damage the stone during cleaning.  Diamonds can handle much harsher cleaners than other, softer stones.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Lots of people wear mossinite as mossanite so maybe he thought it was one and just wanted confirmation.

P.S. Mossanite is a gemstone so be proud pretty lady!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with pp’s- my guess is he was just curious and/or wanted to make sure that he didn’t harm the stone when he was cleaning it. 

Some stones react differently to different cleaning methods (heat especially), and if he could tell that it wasn’t a diamond he may have just wanted to be sure that he wasn’t harming the stone unintentionally.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah, I don’t think that was rude at all.  I have a blue topaz ring that was my grandmother’s that I wear on my right hand almost every day and people ask me what kind of stone it is all the time; how is that any different?

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it is a jeweler’s job to ask what stone you have- or at least how they make conversation. 

Maybe he was asking because he DIDN’T want to be rude and assume anything.

 

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with all the PPs, I think he was just curious. 🙂 Dont take it to heart, gemstones are beautiful and unique!

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