- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Does anybody else really struggle with the inlaws? My mother in law really gets to me. The most recent thing (as I mentioned in another post) is that she is complaining about the food at our wedding. The fact is, the caterer did mess up and he didnt refill some stations often and quickly enough during cocktail hour. But my mother in law has let both me and my hubby know how upset she is. She claims she is only complaining because “she thinks we got ripped off by the caterer” but she “doesn’t think that we will ever get our money back.” Also, “the ballroom was way too small…but don’t worry it was a beautiful wedding.” (Please note, she did not contribute financially to the wedding)
Here’s where I’m lost: I don’t know what to believe regarding her intentions sometimes (or really the intentions of my hubby’s whole family.) And it really F*cks with my head. Sometimes I DO think that I AM way too harsh on them and they really do mean well. Other times I wonder. What does she think will happen by complaining to me? It’s not really about the complaints about the wedding- it’s really about a bigger pattern of behavoir. I am constantly wondering if I am being too harsh/they are really well intentioned OR if I am being naive. It doesn’t help that my dad and mom don’t really like the in laws. I never think that our families will be able to spend a holiday together, etc. It’s all SUCH a mess.
Sorry for the long post