(Closed) The Insincere “Congratulations”

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

First of all, (sincere) congratulations on your engagement! Second, that is really hurtful, and I am sorry they are acting that way. I feel like weddings can get competitive in situations like this, and that’s such a shame.

You by no means need to have a spring wedding because FI’s best friend says so.

The complication, of course, is that I’m sure your Fiance wants his best friend to be involved. You and your Fiance need to decide how to make yourselves happy and whether/how involved he wants his best friend to be.

As for FI’s best friend’s fiance, I’d try to ignore her and/or kill her with kindness. To me, it doesn’t sound like you’d get anywhere at all if you tried to talk to her. Her comments are mean and immature, and you should be thankful that you’re a much nicer person and are with a man who is more conscientious of the feelings of others.

Post # 4
Member
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

First of all, breathe! Definitely calm down and just enjoy being engaged. I know it’s hard, but not everyone is going to be excited or happy for you and you just have to let those comments roll off your back.

You shouldn’t discuss your plans with anyone right now. You did the right thing by saying you aren’t sure and you’ll get back to them. It was really inappropriate for them to start badgering you right away about your wedding date, totally pulling the rug out from under you when you had exciting news to share. That unfortuantly screams that they aren’t real friends.

You are totally right, they only get one day. This is something they will hopefully realize with time. But for now, go ahead and plan your wedding in October and enjoy your engagement!

Post # 5
Member
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Congratulations on your engagement!! Yaaaaa!!! Laughing

You don’t have to justify yourself to anybody. Just get the date you guys want and are comfortable with. And that’s that. It can only be a blessing in disguise if they can’t show up to your wedding.

Post # 6
Member
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

 First of all, congrats to you on your engagement!

Now-They are being really inappropriate. You need to just worry about YOUR wedding, don’t get involved in the drama, and if the date doesn’t work out for them the earth isn’t going to stop spinning and they’ll get over it.

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