(Closed) The Internet & Snooping Is Killing My Relationship

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Relationships shouldn’t be this hard or painful. Walk away and don’t look back.

Edit: The guy has also cheated on you repeatedly and without any indication that he’s even close to being remorseful. It’s time to grow some self-respect and realize you don’t deserve any of that crap.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

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lovinglibralady:  Why the hell are you with this man? You have had justifiably good reasons to “snoop” and you find out he is not only emotionally cheating but physically cheating on you and you are STILL WITH HIM.  

Drop him like a hot potato, get back in counseling for yourself and move on. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

 

This relationship is doomed. It cannot be repaired. You should walk away RIGHT THIS SECOND AND NEVER LOOK BACK.

I’m sorry, but you need blunt right now. He’s cheated on you, repeatedly, with absolutely no remorse whatsoever. He’s never apologized. He’s never indicated that he’s willing to actually fix it. He’s never taken a single step to fix it.

Instead, he FLAT OUT and DIRECTLY blames you. His reaction to you discovering his infidelity was that HE couldn’t trust YOU. That’s insane, and he does is to put you on the defensive so that you don’t feel justification in calling him out on his bullshit. And look….it worked. 🙁

Every time you’ve let him get away with this, again and again and again, you’ve communicated loud and clear that there will never be any real consequences for any of this behavior. So he’s now entrenched. He will never change. He doesn’t want to, and so he won’t.

This relationship is doomed. You need to get out. The longer you stay, the more damage you will do to yourself. PLEASE LEAVE IMMEDIATELY AND DON’T LOOK BACK.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Theres nothing any of us can say here and no amount of time or work is going to fix this. Move on.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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lovinglibralady:  It’s time to move on. Stop wasting time and energy on a man who does not want a monogamous relationship with you. He doesn’t respect you or take you seriously. Walk away.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ps the internet and snooping is not killing your relationship. Your bf killed your relationship by emotionally AND physically cheating on you multiple times, and you are killing yourself by putting up with it.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Also – the internet is not ruining your relationship. HE is. If there were no internet, he would be chatting up random women around the neighborhood. Men acted like this way before the internet.

You do not have an internet problem. You have “crappy fiance who has no respect for you” problem.

Trust me, you don’t have to hurt like this in a relationship, but you’re so deep in it you can’t see straight right now. Please get out, so that you can get some perspective on how screwed up this is.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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lovinglibralady:  hun, this guy is an active sex addict. And you sound incredibly co-dependent. Please please get out of this relationship and find a therapist for yourself that specializes in sex addiction. Stay away from this man, he is a deceptive, lying, selfish addict and his priorities are himself, and getting his next fix. 

This is not a relationship and never will be. It is not something that can be repaired, because you cannot have a relationship with an addict. He is so far down the rabbit hole he doesn’t even believe he has a problem. 

Please get out and do not contact him, you need to leave and stay away. Best of luck to you.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

What are you doing? Do you hate yourself? 

This “man”( and I use that word lightly) has ZERO respect for you.  He has cheated on you and acts like a child.  Why on earth are you giving him the time of day?

 

He is worthless. I wouldn’t be worried about weather this would work out as there Is no way I’d continue with such a piece of crap. I’d be looking elsewhere…There are millions of other men…you don’t need to attach yourself to this.

No it won’t work. He lies and cheats and gets angry with you for finding out.  He won’t change.  He does t respect you

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He says that you are on a “pause”? Do yourself a favor and make it a “permanent”. This is a toxic relationship, and he is a seriel cheater and a liar. Trust nothing he says. You deserve so much better than him. I’m sorry you are going through this, but the moment you leave him is the moment your life gets better. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m so sorry your relationship has been this difficult and painful =( It is definitely time to move on. He has shown no sign of changing and he has been blaming you for his wrong doings. That is a lack of repect for you, and for your relationship. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My dear, your title blatantly shows the issues in your relationship cannot be fixed. You are snopping (which means distrust) and he is cheating (which is also distrust). I’m not sure what your limit is, but if you are willing to stay with a man who possibly will cheat and lead you to crazily mistrust him then continue, if not, time to move on

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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lovinglibralady: his cheating and gaslighting are ruining your relationship. fify 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

The Internet and snooping are not killing your relationship. You SO actions are! He is cheating on you. He has cheated on you and will continue yo cheat on you. you need to leave ASAP with whatever dignity you have left. You deserve better. You deserve more. You are better off alone than with this man. 

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