(Closed) The invite dilema (long)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

just try to focus on the people you really wanna have on your wedding bacause you can’t make every one happy. Invite the aunt you like and explain to her that you don’t wanna hurt her but can’t invite everyone has the hall can only accomodate 35 guests from your sides 🙂

by the way congrats, i’m Belgian too where is your Fiance from?

Post # 4
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987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think the most important thing is that you and your fiance are happy with the invitees. 

It doesn’t matter what you do when it comes to weddings, someone will be annoyed about something. 

I’d put your favorites on an A list, wait for some RSVPs and then do a B list.  I don’t see any point in inviting family first if they don’t mean much to you, purely because ‘etiquette’ says so!

Post # 5
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would invite just the aunt you like.  My mom passed away and since then I haven’t seen her brother or his family.  I would have the same fear, if sent a curteosy invite they would come. On the other hand I always thought sending invites to people you knowingly don’t want to come or you konw they can’t come is fishing for a present.  The A & B list of invites is a good idea. 

 

Post # 6
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yes, you’re going to risk offending people by not inviting the family you don’t really know, but so be it. it’s more important to have a wedding filled with people who share your joy, not a wedding filled with third cousins once-removed you’ve never met.

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