(Closed) The Journey of TTC after miscarriage – Part 12

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
Hostess
8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

jessc27:  I’ll roll call later but I thought your question meant like BD sex hehe 

Post # 5
Hostess
8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): TTC-ish? NTNP?

MC History: I got pregnant in dec 2014 after 5 cycles, my water broke at 17w and our son was born at 29 weeks but his lungs were underveloped and he passed away 6 days later.

Issues (if any): Pregnancy related issues, preterm labor. 

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Well in general, prenatals and healthy habits, more yoga and more mindfulness. This cycle is awkward because if we succeeded my 37 week c section would be dec 21-25, so thats too close to xmas for our comfort levels. So we are half trying because we just are too desperate for a baby to avoid.

Link to charthttp://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/freckledfox/

What are your biggest challenges right now?  Seeing pregnant women, newborns, getting over my fear of losing another baby. I am trying to grow a thicker skin.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: Distraction. Crafts, my garden, going on dates with my husband. I need more faith that our time is coming.

Just for fun: Do you and your partner agree on what sex you would ideally like? We both wanted a boy first (which we did get), but now we would like anything.

Post # 6
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2456 posts
Buzzing bee

Ramping up the candles, FreckledFox……….

Post # 7
Member
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): TTC cycle! Currently on CD5

MC History: blighted ovum at 9 weeks in the first week of March 

Issues (if any): none that we know of, the doctor said it was mostly likely just bad luck.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): this is our second cycle trying now so we are still going to try to keep it simple. I’m still taking the prenatals and using apps and CM to predict ovulation

Link to chart:

What are your biggest challenges right now? Just trying to be patient and having faith that  we will get pregnant again

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: trying to stay busy to pass the time! 

Just for fun: Do you and your partner agree on what sex you would ideally like? We both want a boy first! 

Post # 8
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): MC Cycle

MC History: Had an early MC (or chemical pregnancy if you prefer) late Feb 2016. I found out I was pregnant again on 4/6/16. I started bleeding on 4/10 and I’m currenty still in the midst of yet another early MC.

Issues (if any): PCOS

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): I have no idea. I’m so confused. I wasn’t ovulating on my own so we did 100 mg clomid the 1st time I got pregnant. Then I amazingly got pregnant on my own right after my MC without help. Obviously, I have issues staying pregnant. I’m not sure where we should go from here (test for blood clotting issues? other medications?). I think we are going to give my body (and mind) a couple months to heal.

Link to chart:

What are your biggest challenges right now? Dealing with the back to back MCs emotionally. My coworker is due the same month I would’ve been due with our 1st pregnancy. That constant reminder of what I should be going through is hard. I don’t know how to tell people about our struggles. I didn’t even tell my family about this last MC and 99% our friends don’t know about  any of it (PCOS or the multiple losses). In some ways that makes things easier and other ways harder.  

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: I gave my self an entire day to be upset. All-day-in-bed-crying style. Not sure that’s considered a ‘strategy’ but it was cathartic. I also booked a getaway for my husband and I for the end of this month.

Just for fun: Do you and your partner agree on what sex you would ideally like? We’d both be happy with either sex. I’d like to eventually have a girl, but my heart would be full with whatever we are blessed to have.

Post # 9
Member
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): TTC Cycle

MC History: First MC at 5 weeks, second was a CP at 4 weeks. Currently on cycle 17 of TTC… le sigh.

Issues (if any): None known. Just starting testing (see below)

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): RE told me to stop taking progesterone as he feels it won’t really help, which is a relief because I hate it! Other than that, just keepin’ on and hoping for the best.

Link to chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/HaaaveYouMetTed (I don’t temp, so it’s not very exciting)

What are your biggest challenges right now? The emotional rollercoaster of living life two weeks at a time. Trying not to burst into tears at every pregnancy announcement I see. Ya know, the usual.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: I have some comfort knowing we’ve started testing to find any issues. Every failed cycle is still a cycle closer to baby!

Just for fun: Do you and your partner agree on what sex you would ideally like? I totally thought what Fox said on this question lol we’d happily accept any baby given to us, but if we HAD to choose, I think Darling Husband and I would both prefer a boy first. No reason necessarily – I just had older brothers and would want our future little girl to have a big brother!

 

As you all know, yesterday was my first RE appointment! No bad news so far. We did an ultrasound and preliminary bloodwork. Won’t have the results on the bloodwork for a few weeks, but he said my ultrasound looked fantastic. No fibroids, polyps, endo, etc. and I had a beautiful follie on my right ovary! He said I should O in the next 24 hours, so Darling Husband I would hit O-2, O-1 and hopefully tonight (O) for this cycle. FX! If we don’t get a BFP this cycle, I’ll have to go in for CD 3 testing and go from there. It sounds like we’d start with stims and timed intercourse. If that doesn’t work, move onto IUI. 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

cricket2082:  I am so sorry you are going through this again. It’s one thing having trouble GETTING pregnant, but also having trouble STAYING pregnant… it’s just so unfair. I hope you can relax and find some peace on your getaway this month. 

Post # 11
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

 

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): rest cycle/waiting for first AF since miscarriage last month

MC History: We got our first BFP after about 2 months of trying. At 8 week ultrasound HB and growth weren’t on track and at 10weeks I had a d and c. 

Issues (if any):unknown

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): We are waitng for two full cycles before we start trying. I’ll be following Naturopath/doctor suggestions in regards to TTC. Will continue charting/temping and prenatals. Also, working on my anxious tendancies…starting a program for coping tomorrow!

Link to chart: n/a

What are your biggest challenges right now? I’m finding the wait for AF somewhat frustrating. I’m also still finding it difficult to see other people pregnant or with young babies but it is getting better very slowly. 

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: Gardening and going for walks. We have been blessed with beautiful weather and I have been spending as much time outside as possible. I have really thrown myself into researching gardening/planting and have really enjoyed this new hobby. We will be planting flowers for the baby soon.

Just for fun: Do you and your partner agree on what sex you would ideally like? It doesn’t matter to us! 🙂 

FreckledFox:  I have similar coping strategies…pinterest crafts and garden pages have been such a good distraction for me as well! Thinking of you!

cricket2082:  I’m so sorry for your losses. I hope you’re able to relax on your getaway!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  littlekay111.
Post # 12
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

HaaaveYouMetTed: Thanks so much for your kind words. It does feel unfair doesn’t it? I’m in a better spot about things today. I’ve been searching for wine tours (my favorite hobby! ha!) to do on our vacation. Since I’m not pregnant then I feel its my duty to gorge on soft cheeses, cold sandwiches and wine! That’s wonderful news that your US went so well and affirmation that your O’ing!! WHOOT WHOOT! FX for you!!

littlekay111:  Thank you. I hope AF shows for you soon. Your gardening plans sound like a lovely distraction! I worked on painting our front door after my 1st mc. Doing projects like that always help me when I’m feeling overwhelmed/anxious. 

Side Question: has anyone tried/taken myo-inositol? I plan to ask my doctor about it, but was curious if anyone here had any experience with it.   

Post # 13
Member
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): TTC cycle

MC History: 1 MMC back in August that ended at 8 weeks

Issues (if any): None Known

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Currently in a 2ww…not feeling much hope for this one…for the next cycle trying Sperm meets Egg plan

Link to chart:

What are your biggest challenges right now? Our biggest challenge has been having good timing.  My O date keeps jumping around, and OPK’s tend to give me 1 day of notice.  We’ve never been the type of couple that can have sex days and days in a row, so this whole thing is presenting a struggle 🙁

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: This board helps!  Also, I keep reminding myself that anything is possible!

Just for fun: Do you and your partner agree on what sex you would ideally like? There have been so many boy babies in my family/friend circle the last couple of years…we would really like a girl, but obviously I will be thrilled either way.

cricket2082:  I am so so sorry you are going through this again, how heartbreaking.  I love the wine tour idea!  That’s one of my favorite things too, I hope you will have a great and relaxing trip.

HaaaveYouMetTed:  Fantastic news about your ultrasound, what a relief!  FX this month is it, and you won’t even need that CD3 bloodwork!

littlekay111:  Welcome…but I’m so sorry you’re here.  This board is super supportive! I’m interested to hear about what your Naturopath has to say about TTC!

Post # 15
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1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

cricket2082:  Glad you are feeling better today! A wine tour sounds wonderful. Soak it all up while you can! 🙂

spoonslicious2:  Thank you!

jessc27:  I am! I just had a feeling my U/S would show something. Not sure what, but I went in expecting bad news of some sort. I know the bloodwork could reveal something, but I left there with hope so that’s a good thing! Sounds like you got great timing in! We’re O sisters 🙂 haha when do you think you’ll POAS?

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