(Closed) The Journey of TTC After Miscarriage Part II

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Post # 212
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@bella128:  I can see how that would make you sad. I hope you have your rainbow baby soon.

I continue to spot since Monday morning. I’ve always spotted prior to AF since going off BC so I’m trying to keep a level head. Yesterday afternoon I had a bit of dark red blood and a couple of hours later tiny bits of tissue so I freaked out. That’s what was happening a week before the MC. Of course then I’m googling away and freaking myself out. Then I started getting snappy with Fiance when he was asking me what I was doing.

This caused major issues for us last time and I’m not going to let that happen again, plus the stress isn’t good for me. No more Dr. Google for me and trying not to obsess over symptom spotting. He saw me updating my FF chart and he laughed at me! I was so upset. I was like this is not a joke to me. He apologized and wanted to talk about what I was doing but I just shut my laptop. He just doesn’t get it. I told him I’m stressed and he started talking about how we have enough money and this that and the other thing and I was like, I’m not worried about money! I’m worried about having another miscarriage!!! I said I was actually hoping that this was just AF coming because I don’t want to go through it again. I’m terrified. 

I am starting to feel like the girl who cried pregnant so I’m going to try to stop obsessing over it until I know for sure. My plan is to stop obsessing, stop googling, try to relax. Look forward to my appt with the endo on Friday, eat healthy, exercise and get good sleep. Know that I’m doing everything I can to try and have a healthy pregnancy whenever it does happen, and that if I do have another MC, it’s not something I’m doing wrong that’s causing it. 

I’m glad I have the Bees to vent to. We are not telling ANYONE if we are pregnant this time, so you ladies are all I have!!!

Post # 213
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@jny1179:  vent away!  I  also strug led sometimes with the fact that me and the hubs handle things differently.  This time around he hates when I talk about being terrified of mc 3, he just can’t entertain the possibility.  Whereas I am constantly worried that it is a real  possibility,  So I try to keep my crazies to myself. Hopefully you guys will find a happy medium deal with all this stressful ttc stuff.  A mc really ruins the joy of it,  I am still to scared to get excited about this pregnancy. 

  Good job on the diet and exercise! I got really motivated after my last mc to be healthy,  dropped a few pounds and think that has a lot to do with my getting pregnant so quickly this time! Fingers crossed that everything works out for you! 

Post # 214
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@mtler:  Thank you so much!!! It sucks that guys just can’t even begin to comprehend what we are going through. 

Post # 215
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@mysterybee123:  thanks!  I am really trying to enjoy it but it’s hard not to be scared out of my mind.  Hopefully your tww will end with a bfp,  at 11dpo doesn’t mean you are out! Good luck! 

Post # 216
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oooops double post 

Post # 217
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I caved and tested this afternoon with an FRER at 9dpo – huge stark white BFN. I’m a bit relieved, although I know I’m still not out since it’s early. I really want to get my health in order before getting pregnant again.

Post # 218
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

AF came today. It was a longer than normal cycle. I am not surprised and I’m not too disappointed. I’m looking forward to trying again next month. I’ll resume temping so we can be sure that we BD until after ovulation. 

Post # 219
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@mysterybee123:  Sorry about AF. I think she’s on her way for me too. Still just spotting at this point but getting heavier. No preg symptoms whatsoever.

Post # 220
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jny1179:  I know its really hard not to obsess over symptoms and google everything – you’re still early with testing but I hope you get what you’re looking for 🙂

I have found making daily routines and goals – even minor ones – helps my mind from going there… making a list and following in the morning so I don’t spend extra time googling stuff, committing myself to workouts and meal planning – distraction is key!!  DH has been the one obsessed with symptom checking – he quizzes me every morning of my temperature and “boob assessments” and I just need him to stop, though I know its his own anxiety and worry.  Men… ah.

It’s so hard to not expect a MC to happen again, I’d rather not be pregnant than have to go through it… maybe you need to have a serious heart to heart with FI?

Post # 221
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

 So my Dr called me yesterday with results of the testing I did after MC 2 and before this pregnancy.  Everything is normal except my anticardiolipin (i think?) is slightly elevated not considered high but a bit higher than normal. She wants me to take baby aspirin and retest in in 2 weeks.  If it goes up she will put me on meds. Hopefully everything will work out, I am trying so hard not to stress about this pregnancy but it ain’t easy!

@gollum:  How are you doing?

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@jny1179: good luck at the endo today! 

Post # 222
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@bella128:  Yeah we definitely had a big talk the other night and I think he gets it more now than he did before. He’s definitely supportive, I just know sometimes he can’t relate. I can understand that.

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@mtler:  Thank you!! 

I just got back! The endo was so nice, she went over my history, my family history, saw the thyroid issues in my family as well as my miscarriage and other issues, weight gain, fatigue, bruising easily, she even asked me to show her a picture of myself from before the 60lbs weight gain so she could see the difference. She looked at the results from my recent bloodwork and explained that my antibodies tests were negative, but because of the TSH level being on the higher side of normal, the family history, the miscarriage, and wanting to be pregnant again soon, she decided to be agressive and started me on 50mcg of Levothyroxine right away (she starts most patients at 25). In 6 weeks I go back to see how I’m doing and also have to do a 24 hour urine test to check for creatinine levels. She didn’t really explain why but was concerned about the weight gain in the short period of time. I feel good about that. I hope it helps to ramp up my weight loss efforts as well along with the exercise and healthy eating I’m working on. 

Post # 223
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’ve been yaving pretty bad back cramps since last night and just saw a drop of blood. Ladies, the confidence has gone out the window. Positive thoughts and prayers please.

Post # 224
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

can I join? 

Im 38 and I had a MC about 3 weeks ago. I was 6 weeks along. Physically, it wasn’t anything compared to some of the stories I’ve seen – little cramping, just a really heavy period flow for 5-6 days. My OB confirmed a MC on August 5. 

I go to the OB tomorrow for my follow up appointment to make sure everything is ok. 

I got married 1 week after my MC. I hate that this sadness is carrying over into what should be an amazingly happy time 

Im terrified to try again. I’m terrified of having another MC. My doctor didn’t say anything about waiting a cycle to try again – we were on our honeymoon, no precautions were taken. Now I’m worried that I will be KO and something will go wrong again. My doctor did say he’d do testing if I had a second MC – I am just terrified of having another. 

Thanks for letting me get that out. DH has been great, but it’s not the same as someone who’s been through it

 

 

 

Post # 225
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@mtler:  oh gosh. I sure hope it’s nothing. Praying so hard for you mama!!! Hugs hugs hugs. 

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@Glasgowbound:  so sorry about your loss. Give it some time, grieve as hard as you must, and let yourself heal at whatever pace it takes. 

Post # 226
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@mtler:  I’m thinking of you!!!!

 

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@Glasgowbound:  I’m so sorry you’re here. I am terrified too, it’s so scary to keep trying. The days get easier as time passes. This is a great place to talk about it though. We are all here to support each other. 

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