(Closed) The Journey of TTC After Miscarriage Part II

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Thanks… Ill just keep plugging along… Everyone’s  successes are giving me so much hope!! So happy for everyone!

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@mrsc630:  I would keep using the OPK’s.  After my miscarriage,  my cycle seemed to mirror my previous cycles.  I’ve always been around 32 days. I got a positive OPK on Day 19. Until you get two strong positive lines I would assume that you haven’t O’d.  I wouldn’t read too much into getting a faint line or no line, what’s really important is that strong double line.

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i posted a separate thread about this, but I’ve recently been put on Synthroid.  I have a feeling my TSH had something to do with my previous loss.

Anyways, I’m 8 days late as of today.  I’ve taken about 10 HPT’s and they’ve all been negative. I’ve accepted that it’s the synthroid delaying my period.

But now that I know I’m not pregnant this cycle, I’m that much more anxious for my period to get here.  It’s upsetting me to a point that is almost indescribable.  I am so incredibly frustrated at this all an I’m taking it out on Darling Husband.  I feel like I was put through the ringer in having to wait 3 months because of the MTX, and now this?  i just can’t wait any longer!

I’m also a newborn photographer and in the past couple of days I’ve had some clients contact me who are due in October (my previous due date month).  I know that it’s going to be very difficult that month and I’m already dreading it πŸ™

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsJules:  Congratulations, that’s wonderful news! So glad to see you back and doing well.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow, it’s so amazing to see everyone posting about their pregnancies after MC! I didn’t realize how many ladies there are who are pregnant, seeing a bunch of posts all in a row made it clear. Thanks for the hope, ladies! Great to hear from you all. 

@Mrs. Kiwi:  

@lroetheli:  

@MrsRugbee:  

@beyblade1120:  

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hi ladies, I’ve also been a stalker here and thought I’d finally jump on in. Your stories have been such a comfort in so many different ways and give me hope for the future.

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): Currently pregnant – 5 weeks, 3 days today – or at least I hope I’m still pregnant. All pregnancy symptoms have all but disappeared over the past week so I’m not feeling optimistic about pregnancy #2. Will know more after bloodwork this week and ultrasound next week.

MC History:  Pregnancy in Jan 2013 resulted in Missed Miscarriage (Blighted Ovum) discovered after my first ultrasound at 10 weeks. Body didnt want to accept the fact that the pregnancy terminated so I had a D/C  in Feb after a failed attempt with the drug misoprostol. We’ve been trying since Sept 2012. This pregnancy only took 2 cycles.

Issues: Age –  just turned 37 last month. Seems I have no issue getting pregnant using OPT – just can’t seem to maintain pregnancy. If I am experiencing another miscarriage I can finally get referred to an infertity specialist for tests.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes:  Is anger a coping strategy? I find myself trying to be brave for my husband and suppressing how I really feel. There’s nothing I can do which is the most frustrating thing ever.

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hi everyone, I was just told yesterday that I was likely miscarrying so I’m kind of still coming to terms with it.  I have read through your coping strategies though and it is helpful even already to know that you are not the only one going through something.

 

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle):  I was 7 weeks pregnant today but the doctors (and I) now believe I am miscarrying.  My body is doing it naturally.  It is difficult because I had a perfectly fine ultrasound just this past Sunday, so I had finally relaxed and gotten excited.

MC History:  No history, this was my first pregnancy after TTC for 9 cycles.

Issues: Not sure yet.  I hope this is one of those random ones that will not increase my chances of having another one.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes:   Sometimes I try to think of this as a medical inevitability, kind of like a cold or a flu.  Just something medical that happens.  Other times I let myself get more emotional and think that my body is sparing this baby a difficult life full of hardships or pain. 

Another bee wrote somewhere that Buddhists believe miscarried babies were enlightened souls who only needed to touch the Earth for a moment and feel loved before they moved on to nirvana.  I thought that was a beautiful and comforting thought, even though I am not Buddhist.

 

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MademoiselleL

After reading your mentioning of Buddhist thoughts on miscarried babies I did a google search and found this New York Times article:

http://www.nytimes.com/2002/04/21/magazine/21MISCARRIAGE.html?pagewanted=all

I don’t know if it has circulated on this board previously, but I found a lot of comfort in it. It brings up good points of not having an English word for an unborn fetus and taking time to acknowledge its loss.

I really like the idea of the water child as well… “In Japanese it is mizuko , which is typically translated as ”water child.” Historically, Japanese Buddhists believed that existence flowed into a being slowly, like liquid. Children solidified only gradually over time and weren’t considered to be fully in our world until they reached the age of 7. Similarly, leaving this world — returning to the primordial waters — was seen as a process that began at 60 with the celebration of a symbolic second birth.”

Anyhow, I hope it might help someone else.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ok so today I’m expecting AF and it hasn’t come yet. So of course I just ran out in the middle of the work day, bought a test, and tested. BFN, again, of course–DH and I purposely avoided TTC this cycle on doctor’s advice! Guess I’m just hoping for a random miracle baby, haha. So frustrating! Where is AF?? 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MrsRugbee:  did you get your test results back yet?  Hope everything is right on track!  

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m going to have to join this thread soon… I had a MC on May 9th (it was a missed miscarriage, I found out at 11 weeks that the baby had stopped growing around 8 weeks- after we saw the heartbeat at 6 weeks), Darling Husband and I want to start trying again this summer, I’m just waiting for my cycle to get back on track. 

Im so nervous to be pregnant again! I feel like I’m going to wrap myself in bubble wrap and sit still for the whole thing. I know that is illogical because I didn’t do anything to cause the miscarriage, but it’s still how I feel!

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@mtler:  My doctor’s policy is no call back unless there’s a problem so no news is good news so far. I know she’s had my betas since monday afternoon so I’m certain things are ok. πŸ™‚ Thanks for asking.  How about you, lady?! I hope your #’s are doubling strong πŸ˜€

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MademoiselleL:  I am so sorry for your loss. I remember thinking the same thing…hoping my miscarriage was random and wouldn’t be repeated.  I think that’s a beautiful way to view miscarriage and hope you continue to find inspiration in those words as the days go by. 

@hippomama:  Thank you! It feels surreal.  Everyday I worry that something might happen and live for my medical appointments when I get reassurance that things are progressing well, at the same time everyday that goes by I feel a little bit more confident that I’ll be holding my baby in December. Even writing the word “baby” is a HUGE step for me.  I hope you get some answers soon about AF!

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MademoiselleL:  I’m so sorry that you’re about to go through a miscarriage πŸ™ The buddhist words made me tear up. thank you for sharing them. 

I had a miscarriage in March at 6/7 weeks. It made us bring the wedding forward a year, so once we’re married in Dec we’ll start properly trying then. I was on some medication from the Dr’s in those first few weeks of the pregnancy (unbeknown to me) and wonder if that could have caused me to miscarry. So i will be steering away from everything next time.  

@LMD84:  I feel the same…proper scared and nervous… bubble wrap me too πŸ™‚

I shall be a lurker on this thread until Dec!! πŸ™‚

 

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