(Closed) The journey of TTC after miscarriage(s)

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry about your losses. I found out I was PG on Christmas Eve and then started to miscarry on New Year’s Eve at 5 weeks. All this after having a laparoscopy and D&C last March for an ectopic. We were not really ttc at that time, plus I literally had my surgery 48 hours after finding out I was PG, so it wasn’t as devastating as it was this time around. This time we had been actively ttc since July so we were so ready to get our BFP and it’s been hard.

With this MC, I bled for about a week so it was just like a late, heavy period. My hCG levels are back to 0 as of yesterday and the dr said my body has fully recovered. He also said he wants us to wait until I have two regular periods before we start trying again, but that’s not gonna happen. My dr also said its very uncommon to have two miscarriages in a row but I don’t know how true that is, he might have been just trying to make me feel better. I have done a lot of research like you said, and I’m not sure if its helping me or not. I just feel like my body will get PG again when it’s ready and since my MC was so early and I recovered so quickly I am just going to continue as I was. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@As_You_Wish: Luckily I did not need a D&C this time since I was only 5 weeks and my hCG levels went back to normal so quickly. I did read online that there’s no medical reason to wait after a natural MC, which is why I was so surprised my dr wants us to wait two cycles. I remember reading your story and was so sorry to hear how it ended up. I’m going to request my progesterone be tested right away next time too. This time, my level was 8 when I had my first draw but my hCG was also only 15 and I had started bleeding so I think I had already begun miscarrying. I know waiting two cycles seems like eternity right now. As much as I don’t want to stop ttc, I’m almost afraid to get PG again because I feel like I won’t be able to enjoy it because I will be so worried. :/ It’s just nice to know I’m not alone even though I wish none of us had to go through this.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hi ladies.  I too believe that all my post miscarriage and dying to get pregnant again research is driving me crazy.  I try to not let myself get caught up but it is very difficult to do when the only questions you want answered are ‘why did it happen’ and ‘when will it happen again?’ On the day to day I am fine but every once in a while I think about where I would be in my pregnancy right now and wonder how I would feel and look…and what the baby would be, a girl or boy. I catch myself being more drawn to people with babies in stores, especially checking out the strollers and contemplating which one I would have chosen.  None of this helps me in the focus to relax and get pregnant again.  What also doesn’t help is a fluky period, should have came around new years and there is still no sign of it but HPT’s are all negative. An ongoing, persistent cold/flu is probably certainly to blame for it all.  All in all it is very disappointing but I’m doing my best to keep my chin up..most days.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

So there is what you are supposed to do and what happens– my coworker’s wife had a miscarriage at 12 weeks (and a miscarriage at 20 weeks before that). They were supposed to wait the 2-3 cycles and about 3 months later she returned to the OBGYN because her cycle hadn’t returned. She was 8 weeks pregnant and they now have a  healthy baby girl. Do what is best for you.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel

I miscarried back in September, after 8 months trying. I miscarried naturally, luckily. I waited the one cycle as per my doc’s orders, and amazingly got pregnant again in November. I found out on December 28 that the baby had died, and today it’s been two weeks since I tried to wait to see if it would pass on its own. I have to call my OB today to talk about what’s going on with me, and see where we go from here (I think the next step is a d & c which terrifies me).

I have an antibody issue that hadn’t been mentioned previously, but I know it causes miscarriage. I want to talk to my doc about this because we saw the heartbeat the scan before my “the baby has died” scan. I just don’t think this was supposed to happen. So yeah, I’m also the two miscarriages in a row, in my case it was two miscarriages in three months.

I am so sorry for everyone who has to deal with this, with the questions and the sadness, and the fear for the next time.

Post # 11
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588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel

@As_You_Wish:  Well, a while back I had all these skin issues and a mega sensitivity to the sun. I went to my derm who tested me for lupus and found that I had the antibody, but not lupus. They think it’s some kind of autoimmune issue, but unsure of the form. So after googling the miscarriage and ANA + link, I started worrying. It turns out (also from Doc Google) that having a normal healthy live birth (I have a 3 year old who took 12 cycles to conceive, my husband has penis issues) can awaken autoimmune issues and cause problems carrying to term with subsequent pregnancies. So I need to get another test from my OB that is specific to that antibody, and if it comes back clear, then I’ll accept it was just a fluke (shittiest fluke of all flukes) that we lost two babies back to back. 

As for the d & c, I guess I am looking forward to being “done” with this nightmare, and I am hoping the procedure will keep my body from holding on to the pregnancy like it has been so far. The sooner I can get to trying again, I guess. Did you have to fast before the procedure? I’m hoping to get a Friday Afternoon procedure so I can take off the rest of the day and rest up over the weekend.

 

Post # 13
Bee
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel

I ended up picking up misoprostl on Friday, and cramped and bled all weekend. I’m hopeful this is the end of it, and I can move on with my life. I just really wanted to avoid the d & c, after the c-section, I’m just worried that I’ll mess up my already scarred up uterus.

Post # 15
Bee
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel

This just sucks, doesn’t it? Dealing with the notion of TTC again, which was the most stressful thing in our 5 year marriage, all to wonder if I can actually even get to keep the next baby. I wish for us it could be “We’ll just try again”, but my husband has male factor issues which make having fertile time sex a 1x a month thing. It’s just balls. Just purely balls.

I hope your period comes soon, limbo is terrible.

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