(Closed) The Last Name Dilemma

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 3
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I dropped my middle name and took my maiden as my middle. My original middle name was very old timey and I never liked it. I’ve always loved my maiden name (it’s actually one of your examples) and would be sad to see it go. It was really easy to change since I already had to go to Social Security and the DMV. It wasn’t a big pain in the butt at all! :]

Post # 4
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@sbottiani:  Im not married yet but I plan on taking my FI’s last name so I got a tattoo of my dads signature of our last name on my ribcage, this way its a part of me  forever but its small and discreet so no one sees it unless Im in a bathing suit or something :o)

Post # 5
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Honestly– the name change is the same either way; you’ve got to change everything no matter which route. 

Hyphinating is SLIGHTLY easier in the short-term because by keeping your maiden name as part of your last name checks or things with just your maiden name can still be accepted, but this is a very short-term problem, so honestly I wouldn’t let it influence your decision too much. 

You can also add a 2nd middle name– i.e. Jane Marie Jones could become Jane Marie-Jones Smith or, just Mrs. Smith when she chooses– which is WAY easier! 

That being said– I hyphenated, and now my new name is too long for most forms… I am strongly considering going the 2nd middle route, but I’m still working out how to change it… 

Post # 6
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

i was previously married- i hypend it.. but this time i will be taking his. Another option is to name your son or middle name your last name if its possible.

i have a friend, the 1st born daughter is given the mothers maiden name.. yes it can be hard ( her name is HANDRICK) but now adays when you got people named apple.. anything is possible

Post # 7
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think any decision is easier in terms of the process. Traditionally, women would take her maiden name as her new middle name, not sure if that matters to you.

I have a friend who simply added his name as a second last name, no hypenation. Her name is kinda crazy as she already had two middle names! So its (changed, obviously): Alexandra Emilia Watson Anders Smith. Mouthful! But she goes by Alexandra Anders Smith.

Post # 8
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m going to change my name & use my maiden last name as my middle name and then take his last name.


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