Post # 1
I have always had a rough time with the idea that I would have to give up my last name. In all of my past relationships, I was certain that I would keep my maiden name and all would be dandy. But now…I sort of want to take his last name. I just don’t feel like I can give up my own. That being said, I just need some advice from anyone who has gone either the hyphenated route or dropped their middle name in favor of their maiden name. Ex: Jane Marie Smith becomes Jane Smith Jones after she marries Bob Jones. I just want to know which process is easier. I don’t want to hear anybody telling me I’m “not in it to win it.” The way I see it: either route involves a name change and it is a pain in the butt. All I need to know is…which route has caused the least problems?
Post # 3
I dropped my middle name and took my maiden as my middle. My original middle name was very old timey and I never liked it. I’ve always loved my maiden name (it’s actually one of your examples) and would be sad to see it go. It was really easy to change since I already had to go to Social Security and the DMV. It wasn’t a big pain in the butt at all! :]
Post # 4
@sbottiani: Im not married yet but I plan on taking my FI’s last name so I got a tattoo of my dads signature of our last name on my ribcage, this way its a part of me forever but its small and discreet so no one sees it unless Im in a bathing suit or something :o)
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Honestly– the name change is the same either way; you’ve got to change everything no matter which route.
Hyphinating is SLIGHTLY easier in the short-term because by keeping your maiden name as part of your last name checks or things with just your maiden name can still be accepted, but this is a very short-term problem, so honestly I wouldn’t let it influence your decision too much.
You can also add a 2nd middle name– i.e. Jane Marie Jones could become Jane Marie-Jones Smith or, just Mrs. Smith when she chooses– which is WAY easier!
That being said– I hyphenated, and now my new name is too long for most forms… I am strongly considering going the 2nd middle route, but I’m still working out how to change it…
Post # 6
i was previously married- i hypend it.. but this time i will be taking his. Another option is to name your son or middle name your last name if its possible.
i have a friend, the 1st born daughter is given the mothers maiden name.. yes it can be hard ( her name is HANDRICK) but now adays when you got people named apple.. anything is possible
Post # 7
I don’t think any decision is easier in terms of the process. Traditionally, women would take her maiden name as her new middle name, not sure if that matters to you.
I have a friend who simply added his name as a second last name, no hypenation. Her name is kinda crazy as she already had two middle names! So its (changed, obviously): Alexandra Emilia Watson Anders Smith. Mouthful! But she goes by Alexandra Anders Smith.
Post # 8
I’m going to change my name & use my maiden last name as my middle name and then take his last name.