Post # 1
Tomorrow I get married. Tomorrow all my dreams come true! But today. Today I deal with the process of getting married. And the process sucks. The process involves people not RSVPing, then calling my Fiance during our rehearsal luncheon to ask him to mapquest directions to their hotel. Oh yeah, and they brought two extra people with them. The process involves babysitting two perfectly capable adults who refuse to become big boys and girls and learn how to navigate a city by themselves. The process involves meeting the parents at your favorite restaurant…whose service has exasperatedly declined since your last visit, and which leaves two guest missing meat in their entrees! The process is frustrating and embarassing, and asanine. But the result of all of this stress is a marriage. And darn it I am willing to fight for that marriage. I’m willing to endure a hundred annoying relatives, a thousand bad restaurants, and yes, even three hours of the worst traffic I have ever seen (ev-er) for that marriage. But I do not have to be happy about it. Right? Anyone have any advice for how I can not stress about all the little stuff that I know doesn’t really matter but which is killing me anyways??
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2009 - University of Michigan Union
I have to tell you, I was so stressed, and even furious, the whole day before the wedding. More than any other day during the planning process!
But as soon as I got to the rehearsal and my Maid/Matron of Honor made me eat a granola bar, I started to calm down, let it go, and get the bridal glow from excitement.
If someone had told me that earlier in the day, I would have laughed… that’s how mad I was! Hopefully it will all get better for you very quickly!
Post # 4
Congrats! I’m sure it will be a much happier 4th for you 🙂 I can’t say I know how you feel yet, but I’m sure it will all be worth it, really worth it, and you’ll look back somewhat fondly! Even with the speedbumps in my little bit of planning… I’m still trying sooo hard to cherish every mistake as just another part of my wedding!
Post # 5
all these annoying things will soon be over and you will be happy and married and it will be just you and your husband… yes, married and just the 2 of you
remember to breathe and look to the future… wishing things go smoother from here on
Post # 6
Thanks for the Hive love y’all! I’ve just been planning so much, I think I forgot to live it!
Post # 7
I was pretty stressed and miserable, mostly because I let other people get to me, right up until I saw my Fiance on our wedding day. Then I forgot about all that unimportant stuff and just got into the right mindset and enjoyed the heck out of myself. And I bet you will, too. : ) Just remember to breathe!!
Post # 8
My big day is not here yet but I am going to tell you the things that I try to remind myself of everyday when I start to freak out about wedding planning.
Right now at this very moment you need to completely let go of your control and get out of planning mode. I am sure that you have very capable people who are going to be there with you and who know what is supposed to be going on. Let them do the dirty work for you. Today is your day, enjoy it because it’s going to go by so fast! Things are going to go wrong, that’s inevitable. But at the end of the day nobody is going to remember what went wrong (most people probably won’t even realize it if something doesn’t go perfectly). They are going to remember that you were absolutely stunning and that you married the love of your life, and they are going to be so pleased that you wanted them there to share it with you.
I am so sorry that your rehearsal dinner and the whole day didn’t quite go as well as you had hoped. And no, you do not have to be happy about it when things go wrong or when your guests are needy. Just remember what today is about and have fun. Isn’t it most important that at the end of the day you are a married woman and all of your guests had a great time? Those are the goals for my big day. Appreciate the things that are going to make your wedding day unique. Happy wedding day!!! It is going to be so amazing 🙂
Post # 9
I’m two weeks out, so I don’t have a lot of advice except for:
Don’t forget to breathe!
I just wanted to say congratulations:) Have an amazing wedding day and a blessed marriage!
Post # 10
Mrs. Bee and I are sending happy wedding vibes to you and Mighty Groom!! HAVE A WONDERFUL WEDDING DAY!!! 🙂
Post # 11
Yay! Thinking joyful thoughts for you here, too!
Post # 12
Congratulations MightySapphire!!!! I hope you & Mr. Mighty have an amazing day!!!
Post # 13
You’re married!!!!! Just wanted to say congrats 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
Ditto on the CONGRATS! I hope everything got better and you were able to enjoy your day 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2008 - Ten Mile Station
Deep breaths! My advice is to let go — as hard as it is. For all the months of planning, the day is so short. Don’t let yourself be bogged down with family crap-o-la because the day will fly by if you don’t. It’s time to let go and have FUN!