Post # 1
In the interest of trying to save money wherever possible, I’ve been looking at the Classifieds at dresses, as well as other sites. My question is, how do you feel comfortable with buying a dress you’ve never put on? I’ve found at least 2-3 that I really like, but without having them on my body, I can’t pull the trigger. When I last tried on dresses, neither style was availble any longer so I can’t find it at a store.
I know if they live in the area that I could always try it on, but if they’re in another state do you just have to go for it? Is it ok to ask for a return policy? What have you done to buy your dress?
Thanks for the input!!
Post # 3
Hi! I bought my dress from another bride on the Bee and here is what I would recommend:
-try on similar styles of dresses even if they are not the same. If you go to a local bridal salon and try on the basic silhouettes, you’ll get an idea of what works for you.
-find a bride that posts her measurements and is very similar to you. I’m 5′, so finding a bride within 2″ or so of my height was very important to me. That way I was confident that it would fit and wouldn’t look totally different on me.
-definitely ask about a return policy.
-if you’re like me and want to play it safe, buy a dress from a designer that is reputable. My dress is a Christos, for instance, so I knew what I’d be getting. A local designer might be great, but it’s more of a shot in the dark.
-use PayPal or escrow.com so that you’re covered in case of a dishonest seller.
Post # 4
Thanks Lily, you’ve been so helpful!!
I know I like the silhouette and the one dress is GORGEOUS. I guess I’m just nervous about paying the amount of money without truly knowing what I’m getting. I suppose that’s what a return policy would be for.
Post # 5
Ditto on the measurements thing – normally you wouldn’t be giving out your measurements to strangers on the interwebs, but for this it’s normal and pretty necessary. I sold a dress to a bride with ONE WEEK LEFT til her wedding (talk about pressure, for both of us!) and she and I worked out that it would fit her. She was skinnier than me, but taller, etc and our bust size was similar. It worked and looked SO much better on her. I wonder if she’s on here! I sold it through ebay. Her mother actually sent me the pictures! The dress fit her perfectly, no alterations. I would have had to get it hemmed.
Post # 6
I highly recommend it! In my case, I found a dress I loved in a store but I couldn’t afford it. I started looking and found the dress in a few sizes on preownedweddingdresses.com. I tried on more dresses in that style to make sure I knew what size I was and then! I found a dress in California, in my size, the right color… It just so happens I had already booked a flight to a nearby city to see a friend… I put a down payment on and after a few weeks of deliberating, I agreed to meet the girl to buy the dress in person. I didn’t get to try it on till after I bought it though… I was still scared to death it wouldnt fit. But… it did. I needed NO alterations. I put that baby in a suitcase and headed home!
I had a friend who purchased a dress used online as well and hers fit just fine. She had hers mailed.
Post # 7
Thanks so much for starting this thread. I’m in the process of looking for dresses online. I know the style I like (the exact dress actually) and my measurements. I’m impatiently waiting for replies.
Also, does anyone know how diligent preownedweddingdresses is about removing sold dresses?
Post # 8
One more question, those of you that were able to try on the dress, where did you do it? A public place? The person’s home? I can’t imagine someone allowing a complete stranger in their home, but then again I can’t imagine wearing a wedding dress in a McDonald’s bathroom!! I guess you do what you have to to get the perfect dress, right?
Post # 9
If I were you and found something I liked I’d try on a dress from the same label just to check their sizing. Some run large up top and small in the hips or vice versa – that way you would know what size would fit you the best.
I agree that asking the sellers measurements would help because numbered sizes can be vastly different. Some people will say “I’m a street size X” and their measurements will be totally different than what you might think is a size X.
Post # 10
That’s what I did. I bought my dress from J. Crew and tried a bunch of dresses on to make sure I was consistently a size 4. I ordered my gown for $500 less than retail price in that size, and I LOVE it!
Post # 11
*I got it at Oncewed.com, but it was a J. Crew dress. Sorry! lol
Post # 12
I got my dress from a girl on oncewed.com. She was about an hour away so I drove over and we met at a hotel and I tried the dress on in th elobby bathroom. We both figured since it was a nice hotel they would have clean bathrooms and they did. Over all it wasn’t a bad experience and I got a nice dress. I think if I couldn’t see/ try on the dress first I wouldn’t have bought it online. If you can’t try it on then you would just have to talk with the girl and trust their measurements:)